My husband recived a letter from the csa saying that he is to start paying.. the problem is although he admits he has got children and has to pay. one of the children is not his he has got one child with his ex but she is claiming her other son is his, which considering he was born 2 years after my own son and 1 year before my daughter would mean him having an afair anyway he is disputing the fact with the csa and now having to take a dna test which we dont mind paying for.. we are wanting to know if there is any legal action we can take against her as my husband has went into deep depresion
2007-01-08 02:06:04 · 5 answers · asked by my crazy lil world 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
through my sister in law a friend got in touch with his ex about ten mins ago, she is claiming she didnt put a claim in against him and it must be a mistake, and also she has been phoning the csa to make them stop the claim but the csa are claiming to my husband that it is a new claim they have recived and it his details that the mother has given them, this is crazy and i dont know who to beileve as she has done some crazy stuff in the past to break me and my husband up even went as far as trying to stop the wedding so it might possibly be another lie
2007-01-08 02:27:58 · update #1
Never mind your husband going into a depression you look after yourself here. Wait for the results, I hope she is lying for everyone's sake...you poor things what a nightmare situation. If she's not lying.....good luck
2007-01-08 02:13:28 · answer #1 · answered by reggie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like the woman likes drama... if she's lying then your husband doesn't have anything to worry about. No legal action is necessary because the ex knows she is lying and will have to go after someone else. Otherwise, he doesn't have anything to sue her over. Unfortunately, the ex has every right to try to prove who the father is, even if she is wrong. He's taking the test which will be the defining moment and the end to the dispute.
I could understand the depression if she wasn't lying and he was caught, but why the depression if he knows she's lying? There's no reason for it. Maybe you're husband needs some help dealing with the drama. He might benefit from a therapist if this is bothering him this much. His depression can cause further problems in your whole house. Be understanding and supportive but try not to fall into the slump yourself.
I hope everything works out after the nightmare is over. Women who do this to men whom they know aren't the father, just like to cause aggravation in other marriages because they aren't happy themselves.
Don't let this women cause any undo stress in your lives if this isn't his child. It is the ex's problem and not yours. Good luck and blessed be!
2007-01-08 02:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by LadyMagick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, you really need to get dna tests done either way it will put an end to it all one way or another. ive been in a simular situation.. and if your husband was being a good husband then he has nothing to worry about.
2007-01-12 00:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by jackie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont see why he should pay for the DNA test..
unless CSA are saying they will refund the cost of the test if negative
2007-01-08 02:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by Mark J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sadly i dont hink there is much you can do talk to a solicitor see what they can tell you good luck to you both x
2007-01-08 02:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋