I have been with my girlfriend/fiance for two years. She pushed me to getting the ring, saying she wanted to be married, but ever since then it has been a disaster. Since then she has thought about moving to go back to school, once we set a date she bailed ten days before the wedding (it would have been very small wedding), and everytime there is an arugment about anything she wants me to move out so there is not so much pressure...
I do not talk about marriage with her anymore, she brings it up, she pushes for it, I am not pressuring her.
I remember early on in the relationship she told me not to let her push me away. I also remember her saying how every guy she has ever been with has proposed to her and she "couldn't understand why". To me it must be a pattern of hers. What do I do from here? I feel that she really loves me, am I mistaken. If I try to draw her close and let her know things will be ok, she says it is clingy. I think it is natural. What do you do?
2007-01-08 01:53:54 · 9 answers · asked by Tunasandwich 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't run away from this woman.
It's much, much more efficient if you drive.
2007-01-08 01:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
all of it factors to her being slightly fearful of dedication. maybe she needs you to be 'the single' yet she does not comprehend if she would be able to hold as much as purely one guy. or maybe there is something in her previous the place she's been in a dedicated courting and she or he's been enable down by potential of her companion and she or he's merely scared that it will ensue returned. merely confer along with her approximately it and ask her if she's ok and what's been happening for her to be like the way she is now. issues gets extra perfect :)
2016-11-27 19:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like she is committed if you have been together for 2 years...i understand there is a "next level" but really what is it....a piece of paper? Would it mean moving in, or do you already live together, a women or man who is afraid of committment need their partner to be patient and they need to learn & feel able to trust them, i know this is hard for the other party but you seem like a nice guy, you have done it for this long,. I guess you need to ask youself some questions, is this enough for you? maybe set a limit as to how much longer your willing to just be a boyfriend, what do you want, and can this women fullfill your needs?
Kindest regards
2007-01-08 02:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by Donna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you need to figure out which is more important at this point. Marriage or a committed relationship? You need to figure out what you need and want in life. You would know if you can get what you need and want in life with this woman by now. If the answer is no, you need to figure out how to get what you want and need.
You cannot change another person, you can only change yourself.
2007-01-08 01:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
man, like get OUT of that relationship, you are dating a screwloose
2007-01-08 01:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by bama_cid 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you do not fully understand her yet. Talk to her and get to know her. When you guys r ready you will know
2007-01-08 01:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Go for her mom. She'll be down for a commitment.
2007-01-08 01:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
wait and see
2007-01-08 01:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by anis118030 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hold on...........don't push it...........
2007-01-08 01:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋