When my husband and I each get on our separate laptops, it seems like we disconnect emotionally from each other. The other night, the kids were gone for the weekend, and the next thing I knew, we had been on the internet for four hours just surfing and not talking or anything. We finally went to bed at 3:30am, and that screwed the next day up. We normally are with the kids and we cherish the time we have together. However, we have had a lot of fights about our individual "obsessions" with the net; he complains about me as well. Sometimes porn is involved, and I'm trying to be okay with that, but it hurts my feelings if he looks at it shortly after we have sex. It makes me feel like I'm not good enough or he wasn't satisfied. Thanks for any input you can give me.
2007-01-08 01:52:43 · 7 answers · asked by Skye7112 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was married when I was 20, to a guy I thought I knew pretty well. He was the same age as me, but seemed more mature. So... we got married in June, and that NOV he left for his one weekend a month drill (reserves) and borrowed my Car... I had a sports car. I didnt think anything of it. No big deal... whatever. So I happened to get online that weekend and realized that RIGHT before he left that weekend, he changed his online profile to say SINGLE. I didnt think much of it. Then when he came home that weekend, he was acting really funny. Come to find out, he used MY Car to pick up girls at some bar in southern indiana, AND then gave them his cell phone number and they were calling him all the time. He tried to play it off... I didnt buy it. I was stupid enough back then to give him another chance (which I would NEVER do again for anyone) and he cheated on me the following june with a co worker. I found her hiding in MY closet. So yes.... It started with something as simple as being single online... and changed into something else. I wont even date a guy who has EVER cheated because I firmly believe once a cheater, always a cheater. Since our divorce in 03 he has been married again, and divorced again, and is getting married again this month and she is pregnant. He is a serial groom. hahha... Good luck. I hope this helps.
2007-01-08 02:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Young women want more attention then most guys are willing to give. It cuts into their time with their buddies, watching TV, playing video games or their hobby. Smoking, drinking or drugs can be another big issue too. Then you have other priority issues about time, money or work. Responsibility is another big issue with a young couple because, they tend to live off in lala land and let their parents take care of any major things that comes up. Personally, if I were you, I'd pick a different subject for a play if you want a comedy because, you'll end up with more of a drama by the time you get your research done.
2016-05-23 09:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, I know a few couples who met THROUGH the internet and it has caused no issues with them cause they both knew going in that they both liked surfing the net. As long as you can leave the computer to spend time with your husband or wife and not feel like you would rather be online then its all good.
2007-01-08 01:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you cut the internet off. Its causing problems, and thats not the purpose of the internet in any way. If you both can cut it off for a short time, maybe you can work on each other some. Don't EVER let the internet rule your lives, it can and will destroy a wonderful relationship....GL;)
2007-01-08 02:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by hotmama1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please try couples counseling!! i know how you feel and where your coming from so what i'm suggesting is from experience. you need someone to talk to who will help you both learn to communicate again and learn how to enjoy eachother again. learning how to get back the feelings you had when you were dating and didn't have a care is so important for the long term relationship! so a counselor will tell you important steps to take to get that back! and as for the porno after sex, yes i would feel insulted too! he needs to learn to deal with that as well. please go together and learn how to enjoy eachother again!! GOOD LUCK!!
2007-01-08 02:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the real reason you think you're not good enough? What is it that you hold back on in bed? Your insecurities always dwell within, not from without.
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2007-01-08 11:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋