Why on earth do people feel so "incomplete" without children ??? What the hell is wrong with being married, and having fun ? traveling ? Going to dinner, shows, movies, etc......... ???????
From the way I see it, once the children come, all that goes out the window. And please don't sit here and tell me " you can bring the kids with you" It is in no way the same when you have children on vacation.
My friends NEVER go away anymore. Call it selfish, or whatever you'd like, but it's the truth. case closed.
2007-01-08 01:51:37 · 26 answers · asked by godzillasagoodman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with you. Kids are pain in the asss. Don't have them. They will make you go nuts.
2007-01-08 01:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi...marriage is not a game. When 2 people get married, they vow to never leave each other and will die for one another. If everyone gets married like maniacs, then there wont be true love, marriage will be a source of happiness for men, and depression for women. So, why must leave everything the way it is... if 2 ppl love each other, then they can get married. otherwise, don't use marriage as a source of fun. Children on the other hand, is also a responsibility. Its not like suddenly she'll say lets have kids...it needs planning. Check if you have enough money to raise ur child, and create a family atmosphere to stay away from depression and hatred. Also, the child would need financing. Do u have enough money to raise the child? You see? its not that easy
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2007-01-08 09:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That just depends on the couple. Some couples are happy childless, some want to have kids... I have 3 and I'm not married so it's really hard to be a nursing student and a mom at the same time. My kids are 2, 6 and 9. It's so hard to keep up with everything but I must say, it's hard to imagine my life without them. They are all I have and it made me sad last Christmas because everyone else had a big family. But I'm thankful I have them because when we do have quality time, it feels so good to be hugged and kissed by your kids. Don't get me wrong, I also have those times I just wanna do things alone or be alone for my sanity.
2007-01-08 09:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by ethannadinemariel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having children is a personal decision (usually, sometimes it's a suprise), but with most married couples, it's what THEY wanted. I'm sure they took in mind all of the ups and downs to having children before they made the big jump in the sack. If it makes them happy, you should be supportive as possible. Try aranging diff. activites, and talk to them about finding a babysitter, or having a "couples get away" weekend. Perhaps the couple with children could leave them at a relatives place. It's all about compromise right now.
2007-01-08 09:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by wellwtfok 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have a point yes indeed but some people jus want a family oriented lifestyle and need that unlike some that dont its a personl choice i'd say its not right or wrong its jus who u are as a person that makes u complete i love kids and want them by my side even on vacation but thats jus me and who i am and wanna be yes the vacation is a lil stressful but its ok i wont be lonley when im old and i will always have love in my life familys is what makes people complete. if more people would say out loud what u have jus said. then we wouldnt have these poor children that are abused or left out .i feel if u cant be a parent then dont have a child because its not the childs fault its ur own..case closed
2007-01-08 09:54:45 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Constance♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think it depends on what you personally want out of life. Not all couples want or are meant to have children and I think someone like you, with this mind-set, shouldn't have children. I can't imagine my world without my children, but I can also imagine a small part of what my life would be like without them - traveling, theater, movies, whatever....but when I add them up, having my children far outweigh my desire for those things. And you can take kids to certain things. As I said, child rearing isn't for everyone. I personally think some people should have legally been prohibited (sterilized) from having them; when you hear of all the horrible things people do to kids - it makes me want to hurt someone. Anyway, I happen to agree with you, if you don't want kids, please please don't have them.
2007-01-08 09:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are certainly entitled to your opinion. However, I feel sorry for you with the attitude you have. You are missing out on one of life's greatest joys. Obviously your friends disagree with you also or they wouldn't have children. Don't assume that they aren't enjoying their lives just as much as you are.
There's nothing wrong or selfish about enjoying your life and doing the things you want, without having children. As long as you and your spouse agree on that, it's great.
But just as you are entitled to live your life the way you want, so are the rest of us, and some of us have children. Of course your life changes when you bring a child into it, no one would deny that. But the small sacrifices we make for our children are far outweighed by the joy they bring into our lives. The greatest blessings in our lives are our children and grandchildren.
No one will ever change your mind and that's just fine - just don't expect the rest of us to agree with you (we are entitled to our opinions also).
2007-01-08 10:04:31 · answer #7 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well why don't you ask that question of all those old people all alone in nursing homes, etc., who thought just as you do at one time. Those of us who have children whether planned or not would not swap them for being a world class tourist.
If you don't want kids, fine, but why get married at all?
2007-01-08 09:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because marriage is only fun for women and they think that by having children, it will give their husband another reason to stay. Men would rather not be in a marriage but get trapped. If you don't believe or accept this fact, ask some real men (married and single) and see what they say Reality is a ***** and so is marriage.
2007-01-08 09:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people should not have kids. If you don't want them, don't have them. I have 3 and I don't regret it at all but you are right. Life changes drastically. It's not selfish to not have children if you don't want them. It's the only right thing to do!
2007-01-08 09:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by redpaynt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is often no fun being married as statistics show mos 70% end up in divorce , when some one is married with children they have chosen to change their lives for ever and that is something very difficult to adapt to , you must respect that , there are a million other ways to be happy with mar rage and kids opposed to being young single and free , you will see
2007-01-08 09:54:39 · answer #11 · answered by insenergy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋