one word answers, she never asks me back. I know she doesnt really have any friends and does nothing on an evening so i always invite her to do what my friends are doing, she always says maybe but never comes. She also sometimes ignores me when i try to talk to her. Im sick of trying now. Why is she so rude and how do i stop worrying about her being lonely?
2007-01-08 01:38:24 · 38 answers · asked by Jayne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Maybe she likes being alone and this is just a job to her, not summer camp. Don't worry about her.
2007-01-08 01:40:09 · answer #1 · answered by steffers4979 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are being very thoughtful and kind. She may be the type who likes to keep work and socialising separate. Dont take offence. Sometimes when people are like that we over compensate and try too hard. I would still ask her out etc and if she continues to say no i would ask her why. I would just say in a light hearted way Do i smell or something? Tell her you would really like her to come, she probably doesnt want to be invited because you feel sorry for but that you enjoy her company.
2007-01-08 01:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by goobygum 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's probably very shy and introverted. I have suffered with the same thing although I'm alot better than I used to be. Sometimes, it's so hard just to look someone in the eye and make conversation.
You should try to keep encouraging her even though she's driving you nuts. Eveyone needs a friend. Also, inviting her out with your friends might be very intimidating if she struggles with conversation and is shy.
2007-01-08 01:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she wants help and really is lonely I am sure sshe will come to you. Some people are very private and find it hard to communicate give her some space and let her make the first move. Friendship is a two way street. If she isn't interested you just have to forget about it
2007-01-08 01:46:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just cant help people if they wont accept it. Remember if she really wants to establish a friendship with you, she will come to you. She is old enough to know the difference from being polite to being just plain rude. Try not to worry about her, and feel confident enough that you at least have tried.
2007-01-08 01:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by Need_to_know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live and let live.
She could be suffering from social phobia for all you know. It is a common but unfortunately unrecognised affliction which is suffered by many.
I should know as I used to suffer from it.
Although you want to get out there and be sociable it is virtually impossible.
Imagine walking into a pub to meet your work mates or just going for a meal and when you do this you feel the same fear that you would if you were going to fight a deadly knife battle with a gang of Colombian drug lords, would you do it?
Well that is what it used to feel like for me. Be civil, give her space. She will have to get through it on her own.
2007-01-08 01:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by abluebobcat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you could simply try being honest with her ~ saying something along the lines of....
'I've tried being nice to you, to talk with you and engage with you and help you, but you just seem so cold, distant and sometimes all but rude in return. It upsets me and I really don't feel like trying any more....'
You may well not get anything positive in reply, but you can leave it on the moral high ground by leaving the door open '....if you feel like talking...' etc etc.'
[ Keep it simple ]
As for 'Why' is she so rude? Who the hell knows here! No doubt she has her own good reasons for her attitude.
PS: Don't blame her for your being 'driven mad.' That's your responsibility ...how ever well meaning your attempts are. \s the saying goes, about 'taking horses to water ...and not MAKING them drink' .....! Yes?
Sash.
2007-01-08 01:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact that you tried to interact with her is really nice of you.
However, perhaps you are approaching it in the wrong way?Don't completely blank her, but perhaps just smile and nod your head to her or something?Perhaps she has never had friendlyness like that before, so is a little startled?Also, how old is she, if your a bit older, or in a higher position than you, she might feel a little intimidated?
Hope she starts talking!
2007-01-08 01:46:56 · answer #8 · answered by Saz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just has poor interpersonal skills and is hiding it by not conversing!
It's a problem with her - not you, so don't worry about it, or get mad. Just be polite, and don't make so much of a effort to talk to her.
Just say hello-goodbye-how are you, etc, and leave it at that. If she wants to talk, she will, if not, well, there's not much good at forcing the issue, is there?
2007-01-08 01:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by Dr Dave P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give up if I were you. Some people are just rude to the point of ignorance and I can't be doing with that. I have far more important things to be doing than wasting time on ignorant people.
You've done your best and no one can do any more.
2007-01-08 01:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by The Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
most people who act that way are either miserable in life or jus dont know how too open up with others and be care free dont give up on her she may need u and u maybe the one person who can reach her..jus be patient with her and show her u are a good person and only wanna be her friend with nothing in return...she will come around hun jus keep trying..good luck
2007-01-08 01:43:16 · answer #11 · answered by ♥Constance♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋