Is She BI-Polar?

Question

My wife tells me she loves me one min and she wants a divorce the next min she is happy one min and tottaly pissed off the next. Icant understand it, and its really hurting our marriage every thing is ok now but what do i need to do i dont understand. I have never had to deal with this before does she really have a disorder. She is so loving sometimes then other times she is the coldest person i have ever met, and she tells me she is sorry she dont know why she does it, or she will say its just a phase or something like that. please only serouis answer i dont know what to do.

Answer 1

Bi-polar is also manic depressive disorder. People will have periods of mania and periods of depression. If she is not experiencing the "lows", the depression, and the "highs" the mania, I would say she is not bi-polar but I am not a professional psychiatrist and not qualified to make that decision. If you have any doubts maybe you could get her to talk to someone about how she is feeling. There is also Bi-Polar 1 and Bi-Polar 2. It could be she is having some hormone issues and would benefit from seeing a gynecologist and having some blood work done.
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Answer 2

People with bipolar disorder are extremely moody. They can be either thrilled and so happy they can't stand it or they can be very sad, depressed, irritable and want to just be left alone. There usually isn't a happy medium there. It's actually manic-depressive disorder. One extreme to the next. It's a serotonin disorder in the brain which is a chemical imbalance. If it is bipolar disorder, she doesn't understand what makes her feel the way she does. It just happens for no apparent reason. You should talk her into seeing a psychiatrist who can evaluate her and prescibe medications that will help quite a bit. Let her know that she is not crazy and the meds will help balance out the chemicals in her brain. It's no different then being diabetic. Diabetics take meds to balance the insulin in their bodies and bipolars take meds to balance the serotonin level in the brain. Hang in there for her. It's a tough thing for anyone to go through, but once she is medicated, after a few weeks you will start noticing a change.

Answer 3

To tell you the truth, if this were true, 90% of the world would be bipolar. Nowadays drug companies all have an answer for our behavior. You wife may just be "confused" as to what makes her happy, I too go off the deep end when my wife pressures me, im not bipolar, just get pissed off as im sure you do as well. You two need to see a doctor, and counseling, cause her problems could be "deeper rooted" .
I honestly feel that she is just confused. Maybe she needs some "alone" time. Do you constantly hang on her?? Hobbies away from each other are good for you ya know.

Answer 4

She might be. I suggest her going to her dr. and getting a "full workup" and openly discussing her issues. could be that anti depressants or something like that could help her. as a woman, i can tell you that sometimes we get so stressed out, and if her communication skills are lacking, it is hard to put into words what she might need. she might not even know how to tell you what she needs. do you have kids? if so, this alone can completely stress a woman out. i would suggest trying to be very observant to what might "trigger" her - is is at dinnertime? is she juggling kids, cooking, homework, trying to clean the house etc... while you stand there, or sit there watching tv - waiting for her to tell you what she needs? don't expect that she will tell you. I think you should just start doing for her. she might have built up anger for whatever reason and if she is thinking about it, it might explain the cold part. Did you cheat on her? or betray her trust in any way? if so, that could be what she is stewing on. the biggest turn on for a woman is not a man that is super sexy, super rich, super slick - it is the man that plays with the kids, cleans up after dinner and says "why don't you go take a bubble bath, I can handle this". Good luck

Answer 5

Bi-Polar is an illness, a disease. It is hereditary. Being bi-polar is not the same thing as mood swings. Mood swings have different affects and causes. Some from alcohol. drugs, stress. Something external, maybe a lie, or dishonesty. If you believe it is Bi-polar, seek professional help. There are plenty of help out there for this illness. Do the research. Don't make uninformed decisions. Ask God for Guidance , understanding, and strength to do what is necessary. Good Luck, and God Bless you.

Answer 6

She sounds like she is conflicted. She wants to work it out but then gets upset with something in the relationship. I sense there are some deep problems that you both need to address. It is possible she is bi-polar but this is a serious disorder that cannot be diagnosed on Yahoo questions. I think you should consider marriage counseling. If she is bi-polar this will come out. If she is conflicted then this will give you both a platform to address the issues you have with each other. I wish you well.

Answer 7

WOW, I know that Bipolar is not well understood by the public but I am still always shocked and astounded when faced with an army of ignorance. Let m tell you a few things about Bipolar Disorder. It is comprised of 2 moods - mania and depression. A person with Bipolar Disorder will have periods of mania that last for weeks or months or years that are usually followed by a period of depression that also lasts for weeks or months or years. That is usually followed by a very normal period that lasts....... weeks or months or years. The average person with Bipolar only has a cycle of moods once every 2 or 3 years. If they have 4 or more cycles in a year, it is considered rapid cycling. If you are curious you can research the symptoms of depression and mania yourself. In order to be diagnosed with Bipolar the depression must last a minimum of 2 weeks and the mania must last 1 week.... Your wife does not have Bipolar..... rapid emotional swings can be caused by anxiety, stress, thyroid issues, hormonal issues and other things but it is not Bipolar.

Answer 8

Does she have a good relationship with her mother? Not your mother, her mother? If she does, then talk to her mother. Not your mother, her mother and this is very important. She doesn't want to hear what your mother thinks, but she loves her mother.

Now, if this is not possible ask if she will visit a marriage counselor with you. Let the counselor tell her that she has a problem. Some churches have free counselors that can help.

You didn't tell us her age, but she could be going through the change of life. This causes many different mood swings. It also causes night sweats. Are you always cold and she is always hot then this is a sure sign of the change of life. Hormone imbalance.

I hope some of my suggestions will help.

Answer 9

A person with bipolar disease gets "really" high moods and then "really" low moods...there is no in between moods! I would suggest going to a marriage councilor and then go from there! If she has a disorder the specialist can pick up on it!!

Answer 10

Yup!!!!! You should have known that before you even two even got married. Bipolar people just can't turn their disorder off and on so I'm positive she was like this when you were just dating. You two should look into some counseling or something, maybe that should work. Just remember that people who are bipolar tend to say some things that they don't mean so don't go being all dramatic when she tends to pick on you............Good luck with everything!!