My hubby and i have been married for more than a year now, and he's slowly slipping away as if we're married for more than ten years We usually have these petty arguements (according to me and i'm a very practical person) and he makes it a point that it's my fault, and that he's incapable of mistakes and wrong assumptions.
We have a ten-year gap. He's more childish than me in so many aspects, though i admit that i, myself is childish at times. We're living in South Korea, and please, don't advise me to have a sit-down with him. It never works.
What is the best way for me to have him understand that we need each other, and he's not as perfect as he assumes to be?
2007-01-08 01:14:43 · 7 answers · asked by reijene 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i don't want him perfect, i just want him to be reasonable (which he isn't most of the time.) he's older than me,, that's why he thinks i'm always wrong.
i didn't ask him to marry me, (to answer the guy who said i already have a husband and leave him alone) and i don't nag. i have never shouted at him, and i have been very patient. quite frankly he's going to trip it very soon... and i'm not bound to let it happen.
Counseling (as i have mentioned) is a sit-down. It will never work on him...
2007-01-08 02:16:22 · update #1
and i'm not perfect... i'm practical.
2007-01-08 02:17:02 · update #2
There are 12 years between my husband and I and we don't have any problems, of course he is the older one. If you are 10 years older than your husband, I can see that there would be a problem because men mature so slowly, but if it is the other way around you honestly have to talk. If it doesn't work with you, maybe you should get counseling.
2007-01-08 01:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the age difference is your problem. I think your husband's attitude is the problem.
It isn't up to you to change your husband, he's the only one who can change. Unless he's willing to sit down and talk to you and try to work out your problems, I don't see anything changing for the better.
Have you considered counseling? Maybe an objective third party can make him understand what you are unable to explain to him. Communication is a huge part of a successful marriage, without it I don't see a very different future for you.
Good luck with this one, I think you're going to need it.
2007-01-08 09:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well admit to yourself your not perfect too.. the key to a great marriage is differences.
Compromises are what keeps them together.
Find things to do together. Now my guy and I live in 2 different worlds(he isn't older in years but eons in experience) but we have fun when we do see each other so we make it quality time not quantity. Meanwhile you find things to do on your own like volunteer work you can't stick together like your first year.. marriage don't work that way.
2007-01-08 09:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men do not want to be married. Marriage kills a guy's natural spirit. You got what you wanted, a husband, leave the man alone. You'll make matters worse by constantly nagging him about insignificant crap that he probably doesn't even care about.
2007-01-08 09:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are trying to control someone to your way of thinking. Pray for your marriage and ask God to intervene and help you.
2007-01-08 09:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your assumption is that you could make a perdect person see that they are indeed inperfect. Not gonna happen!
2007-01-08 09:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love someone then don't worry the age is just a number
2007-01-08 09:37:18 · answer #7 · answered by poptart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋