i have this guy friend that ive been really close to for a really long time now and i just dont get it hes never introduced any of his gf's to me and when he has a gf he doesnt really wanna hangout with me then as soon as they break up he wants to hangout with me again for like 24/7 and we both like eachother alot so its like i dont know maybe hes just scared to take r friendship to the next level or what cuz as soon as i start talking about us in a relationship he changes the subject and when we do hangout hes all over me like as if we r a couple i just dont get him
2007-01-08 00:54:13 · 27 answers · asked by sexy honda girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and like when he has a gf i dont judge there relationship but as soon as i get a bf hes all over my case and trys to break us up its like he doesnt want me to have a bf
2007-01-08 01:42:54 · update #1
You are obviously making yourself too available for this guy.
2007-01-08 00:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is in the mesing around stage,,,he wants to meet new girls, mess around etc. You're his 'back up' plan B....that he likes but does not want to commit to...
This can be hurtful...to you. What would happene if you met a guy and started going out with the new guy when your friend didnt have a g-friend?...would he care?/be jealous?
I can imagine you feel bead when he has a girlfriend and ExCludes you... It seems he's not ready to be only your man--maybe he doesnt want to---for whatever reason. You should not let him 'use' you as the backup plan because its not fair to you. If he really cared about you he'd be your man...but he has other things in mind it seems. I say...enjoy him and his friendship but consider other people without 'waiting' for this guy ...he might be cool/nice...but not what you need in regards to a 'significant' other. You deserve a good man to make you his #1...not plan B...
2007-01-13 05:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by Waiting to Scream* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is a loser. he is making you nothing but available to him. A relationship with him will prob not work since he is running on and off dating different girls all the time. Dont let him touch you and be all over you like you a couple. tellhim nicely to keep his hands to himself. he does not introduce you to any of his girls coz he knows he is dating them for sex and knows it wont last so he would be embrassed at the end of the year to count the number of girls he'd have introdued to because they might fill a double deck bus from london. No hating on him but he is not serious with life, also start avoiding him and do your thang
2007-01-11 23:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don' think he is using you. it sounds like he thinks of you only as one of the guys. if you like him as a friend you'll have to put up with his ways. just think of yourself, when you have someone in your life, you stay away from pretty much everybody you know and when the relationship breaks up you go back to your best friends until someone else comes into your life. if you really want to know what he thinks of a relationship with you - don't let him change the subject - tell you are talking seriously and want to know how he feels. but, if you do this and he doesn't want a relationship with you, you could lose the friendship. so, think of what you are really looking for from him. good luck.
2007-01-08 01:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just using you to fill in the gaps inbetween his relationships. It is obvious he doesn't want you to be his gf so why should you be his gf substitute when he doesn't have one? Tell him either to introduce his gf's and be a proper friend or leave you be.
2007-01-08 00:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have common sense just like every other human being that answer questions on this site and I don't think you need a stranger to tell you that you friend is not a very good one.
2007-01-08 01:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he's using you for when he doesnt have anybody or anything else to do. You dont need anyone like that. You seem really nice so go be friends w/someone who will appreciate you for you.
2007-01-08 00:58:29 · answer #7 · answered by daprty1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's your 'healing' phase after he ends it with a girl. Or in other terms, you're his rebound girl. Sweetie, of course he's using you. You've stated the evidence, and it's quite obvious you'll be nothing more than just someone he depends on for 'benefits.'
Best of luck sweetie!
2007-01-08 01:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is afraid if he takes it to the next level he will lose the relationship he has with you. If you think it will work at the next level, you need to force the issue with him.
2007-01-08 00:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by Alexandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably is using you as a security blanket...just talk to him and if he changes the topic, be firm about it.
...get to know another guys too, your really not sure if your serious, so get out there too.
if he has gf, get a bf too.
^_^
2007-01-08 00:58:56 · answer #10 · answered by me_myself_mwah. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already understand the whole process and are thinking on an adult level. Do what your analysis tells you to do. You know what is best.....
2007-01-08 00:58:06 · answer #11 · answered by loligo1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋