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Should I feed my neighbors twins with my twins? She is having a hard time and offered to pay me $2.00 an hour I know that is alot of money but I don't want my baby to get jealous but I dont want her twins to be underfed like the olson twins. Is this a good Idea?

Answer 1

haha, you rock

Answer 2

first i think it's great you are considering this. but honestly i don't think it's a good idea. you have 2 of your own to feed. what happens when it's 3 in the morning you just got your twins to sleep and you're finally climbing back into bed and the neighbor comes knocking on the door because her kids are ready to eat? you would never get any rest. and that's unhealthy. in order to do such a thing, you would have to deprive yourself of many things. and that's unhealthy. if you are unhealthy then none of the babies would be benefiting from the breastfeeding anyways.

if she's concerned about her babies having proper nutrition have her talk to their pediatriican. there are many formulas out there that are close to breastmilk. the main thing to look for in them is dha and rha. i think similac offers the best. but honestly any brand works. as long as she is feeding her twins when they are hungry then they won't be underfed.

the olsen twins just look that way because of the media and society. they have given themselves an eating disorder and are hooked on drugs. if you watch some of their earlier shows/movies you'll see they were chunky babies and perfectly healthy. go watch "full house" or "double double toil and trouble". they weren't unfed as children.

Answer 3

Well actually wet-nursing (breast-feeding someone else's baby for money) is a very old profession. Women in the Middle Ages used to do it all the time because there was such a high rate of death in childbirth and formula didn't exist so someone had to feed the baby. Usually a neighbor or someone nearby who had recently had a baby, weaned a baby or had their baby die, but still had milk would take over.

Answer 4

Are you really asking if you should be breastfeeding your neighbors twins in addition to your own, like a wet nurse did back in the middle ages??? One reason the infantile mortality rate was so high back then was inadequate breastfeeding. Nurses would take on multiple babies to increase their income, but there wasnt enough milk for all the babies to survive. Seems like this must be one of those 'fake' questions... babies dont get jealous of other babies, they are too young for that sort of emotion.

Answer 5

No. There are plenty of nutritional formulas that your neighbor could use. A baby will bond with its mother through breastfeeding. You are not the mother of those babies--do not confuse them.

Answer 6

I wouldn't recommend it. Tell her to hire a professional wet nurse. Your millk supply needs to be right for your own baby, not the neighbor's twins.

Answer 7

I don't think your child would become jealous. I think you child would see this on as a sibling. Do it. Just make sure you have the child tested for any thing bad. This is a bad world now a days

Answer 8

My granny did that with me and my uncle. My uncle was the youngest and my father was the eldest in the family. When I was about 8 months, my mother got sick so my granny had to feed me with her milk, making me share with my uncle. And there was no problem, my uncle and I get along well.

Answer 9

Wet Nursing--the complete nursing of another's infant, often for pay.

Cross Nursing--the occasional nursing of another's infant while the mother continues to nurse her own child, often in a child care situation.

Most important is the hazard of potential infection for mother and baby. In recent years, the media have reported various "new" viruses and diseases. We are all more aware that the possibility of transmitting infections is heightened. Fear of infection has caused mothers who once shared breastfeeding in a child care situation to no longer consider cross nursing as an option.

The mother who is cross nursing may experience a reduced supply of milk for her own baby. Nursing another baby during the day may leave the cross nursing mother with an inadequate amount of milk for her own baby later in the day. Various factors including the ages of the two babies and the regularity of the cross nursing schedule would affect whether or not the cross nursing mother's milk supply would build up to meet the needs of both babies.

Babies of different ages require a specific composition of milk. Milk from the baby's own mother will provide the exact make-up the infant needs; another mother whose baby is not the same age may not provide the same components.

Cross nursing can also affect the baby psychologically. A difference in the let down, either in the timing or in the forcefulness, can confuse and frustrate an infant. In many cases, a baby will refuse to nurse from a cross nursing mother/ child care provider, especially if the baby is four months or older.

In 1981, Krantz and Kupper published an article, "Cross-nursing: Wet-nursing in a Contemporary Context." In this study, mothers of four-month-old babies said that when cross nursing, the babies "looked puzzled" when offered the breast of the "other" mother. One baby, although she latched on and nursed well, became disturbed if the surrogate mother spoke while nursing. The baby "stopped nursing and whimpered" each time the woman spoke and continued to do so until the woman stopped talking. The involvement of a substitute nursing mother also detracts from the unique bonding a nursing mother and her baby share.

In the age of potential transmission of HIV, hepatitis, and other viruses through human milk, there is an increased risk of using a wet nurse. There are also new strains of bacteria that are becoming drug resistant and extremely dangerous. Informal sharing of milk between nursing mothers who care for each other's children and nurse them, or sharing expressed milk with a friend or neighbor or acquaintance is not advisable. Furthermore, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention specifically recommend against this informal sharing of milk.

Donor milk banks have put several safeguards into place to prevent the possibility of disease transmission. First, all donors are carefully screened for diseases of various kinds before their milk is accepted. In the informal sharing situation this safeguard is usually absent. Additionally, donor milk banks pasteurize all milk prior to distribution and check it for bacterial content. This safeguard is also not present when women share milk with each other informally.

Because some individuals may have a viral or bacterial infection but remain asymptomatic (without symptoms), they may never know that they are infecting another party. For this reason, "knowing someone well" would be inadequate protection against disease transmission because the carrier is unaware she is infected. In the case of sexually transmitted diseases or illegal drug use, people may go to extremes to protect discovery of the behavior that led to the infection.

Finally, there have been cases where family members have nursed or provided milk for each other's children. This might be considered very safe by some individuals, but for the same reasons listed above may prove to be unsafe. Imagine the strain on a family relationship and dynamic, not to mention the guilt, if a child should become ill because of a disease that was transmitted via the shared milk of a relative.

Perhaps the only exception to this situation might be in a hospice situation where the recipient of the milk is not expected to live. In this case, milk from a family member may alleviate suffering and discomfort caused by medications or the disease itself. Family members should not expect a quick fix, however, and should discuss the options thoroughly and be fully aware of the possibility of disease transmission.


Your feirnd should consider getting milk from a milk bank

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receipt of a blood transfusion or blood products within the last 12 months.
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regular use of more than two ounces of hard liquor or its equivalent in a 24-hour period.
regular use of over-the-counter medications or systemic prescriptions (insulin or thyroid replacement hormones and progestin-only birth control products are acceptable).
use of megadose vitamins and/or pharmacologically active herbal preparations,
total vegetarians (vegans) who do not supplement their diet with B-12 vitamins.
use of illegal drugs.
use of tobacco products.
a history of hepatitis, systemic disorder of any kind, or chronic infections (eg., HIV, HTLV, tuberculosis).
had a sexual partner in the last 12 months who is at risk for HIV, HTLV, or hepatitis (including anyone with hemophilia, or who has ever used a needle for prescription or non-prescription drugs, or who has taken money or drugs or for sexual favors).

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Answer 10

concentrate on your own babies and help your neighbor find a different alternative.

Mom of 5 with another on the way

Answer 11

Get a life