I have 4 kids aged 4 months to 9 years. I can see them only once or twice a year.
2007-01-08 00:51:30 · 8 answers · asked by richeb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
web cam and a fast pc? keep a diary so they can share in your day to day life....this will become more valuable in later life when they are adults and this gives them a chance to discover who you really are....they can do the same for you...when they can write.
2007-01-08 00:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by michael s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've also worked away from home, but only for at most 6 months at a time. This was a deliberate choice on my part, because I didn't want to be away from home all the time. We discussed moving, but my wife didn't want to do that. The family was settled where it was. The only option was for me to decide what my priorities were. In my case it was an easy choice. I work to support the family I never see - What's the point of that if I don't get to spend time with them.
I don't know what you do for a living, and why that means you have to work away, but there has to be a way of finding a practical solution to being able to make a living and live with your family. It can be hard to leave what you consider to be a stable income and take a risk, but I have to suggest that I'd rather be living month to month and be with my family, than never see them and make such a financial sacrifice. Your kids are going to grow up fast. You can't get that back, and you don't really want them to remember their childhood as being without a 'proper' dad?
I feel for you - really! I hope this helps!
2007-01-08 08:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by prusec_int 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the obvious answer would be to either leave the job to a job nearer home, granted it may mean a reduction in salary or lesser conditions, but I dont think that should matter too much when you would be near your family.
Could your wife and kids move nearer to you??
Being honest getting to see your family once or twice a year is disgraceful - I dont know your working conditions or why you are abroad but I would think it would be in your own interest to move home and work there. xx
2007-01-08 09:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, ask yourself if the job you do is more important than your wife and kids? Could you maybe come home to them and just get a new job? Your kids will thank you for being there even if you don't earn a lot of money.
2007-01-08 08:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by CLAIREWK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had to go through the exact same thing, but my family kept it strong. I called them everyday and talked to my children everyday, so they know that mommy still thinks of them and that mommy still loves them. So make sure you do that, so they don't label you as the 'badguy.'
Sooner or later, you will feel good about yourself, knowing the only reason you're far away is because you are trying to provide for your family. And your children will understand that soon too.
Best of luck going through it all. I can tell you it's not easy, but things will change, and you will see better days. Just keep your family strong.
2007-01-08 08:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by Ann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you have a computer, why not get your wife and yourself a webcam and then you will be able to see her and the kids much more...i know it's different than physically seeing them but it will ease the pain a little....
2007-01-08 09:00:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhh i feel for you hun!!! do you speak via email and stuff?if you do couldnt you get a web cam so you can see them when you are talking???
2007-01-08 08:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by Lola 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
money not the b all and end all but it helps
2007-01-08 16:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by angies_angel_eyes2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋