yesterday on my way to my sister in laws i threw away the remote for the cd deck. I was really upset. My husband has a drinking problem. when he starts. there is no stopping till the alcohol is finished, He would forget the fact that i exist.He insisted that he would not drink for the new year because of past events where he hurt my feelings. like not spending the break of the new year with me. forgetting to pick me up from school.because he was to busy drinking. i am hard working and studying after hours to make a bright future for us. yesterday I was really mad. It seems as if its only him who has sisters and a mother. after all i wanted to visit my mom who is less than 10 minutes away.but he insisted we should only go to his sister homes and too drink aswell.I got really pissed of and started cursing. i had spend the entire weekend trying to complete a school project.
2007-01-08 00:05:23 · 8 answers · asked by meerielee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You two need professional help. See a counseler and encourage him to do the same. Good luck...
2007-01-08 00:15:35 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Heart, I'm so disappointed in you. Everyday women complain about their husbands not being able to find work, some husbands are even getting laid off from work. You have a man that cared enough about you to work long hours so that he may bless you with financial support and gifts. This is how you repay him? If you were that lonely, why didn't you go out and adopt a pet, takes classes at school, create a book club, do something other then breaking one of your vows for five minutes of pleasure. Quick question, was it worth it? I'm sure that it wasn't. He's gone sweetie and I know that he won't be back no time soon. He's hurting. You spoke about bank accounts. Could this be all that you're worried about? No time to waste. Get some type of income flowing so that you'll be able to cover your expenses just in case he did withdraw the money. Honey, I wished that I can offer you words of comfort and I know that no body's perfect but come on, this is ridiculous. Women would give anything to have a secure lifestyle. You have to ask this man to forgive you. It's going to take some time so you better get used to those silent treatments. I'm sure that he loves you enough to want to give his marriage a second chance. Pull your self together, and next time don't do anything crazy to .....this up again.
2016-05-23 09:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing everything you can to make a future for the family. You need to get him to acknowledge that. Make a stand and tell him that you will not put up with this nonsence if all he does is try to break up all the hard work you are putting in. He may need to be put in a program to let him be aware that he has a problem. Alchoholism is a desease that needs to be cured by people in the field. No amount of anger and arguments will work unless he does something about his drinking.
2007-01-08 00:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by Bomberman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drinkers will try to guilt you about anything - just to take the spotlight off of their problems. He needs counselling - as do you. You have no happy future ahead with this individual - can you see that? I spent 10 years trying with my ex - what a waste. He would rather drink than be in a relationship.
2007-01-08 00:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trying to make him feel guilty probably will not work. Already, his alcoholism is sufficiently advanced that he cannot even follow his own resolution to quit. For support, and to learn how to survive under the conditions you're in, I recommend Al-Anon, which is a support group for people who have alcoholics in their lives. You can find them in the phone book, and meetings are free.
2007-01-08 00:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are the only one with any ambition... Maybe you made the wrong choice in marriage to this guy... If he doesn't seek help and change I would seriously think about moving on and letting this guy fend for himself... and find you someone who really cares about you and wants to have a decent life together...
2007-01-08 00:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u and your husband need conseling. to work as a team both of u need to work. why can't he go to his sisters on his own and u go to your mother's. its immature to throw away the cd deck. it would of been better to throw away all the liquor in the house.
2007-01-08 00:10:20 · answer #7 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless he has a job as a judge, he has no right to deem you as guilty. Remind him of that.
2007-01-08 00:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋