We have been together for over 4 years. In the beginning we were both pretty aggressive in the bedroom because we were so curious about each other. Now that we know each other almost too well we are both waiting for the other to take control in the bedroom. So what ends up happening....is a lot of sexual frustration and nothing else. I don't know what to do.
2007-01-08 00:05:11 · 10 answers · asked by Melissa H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try to adapt visual stimulates of sexual content . ie pornography
make sure it stays in the entertaining context. this typically will spark ur own sexual enthusiasm. .
2007-01-08 00:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by adelbert321 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there are probably other issues that need to be addressed in the relationship. its ot just about the aggressiveness in the bedroom. since you used to be all over each other, that shouldnt change in just 4 years- you should still be exciting each other. maybe high expectations not fulfilled or the waning of the euphoria of marriage. you have to try to resolve any other issues that you have. the physical side will follow.
2007-01-08 08:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by iceberg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take turns!
Talk to him and the two of you decide that on certain days (or nights), you will be in control and on other days he will take the lead. This can turn out to be a lot of fun, and extremely satisfying if the two of you know who will be in charge when the time comes. Otherwise, it can be very frustrating.
Good Luck!
2007-01-08 08:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each night if I have not initiated sex with in 5 minutes after hitting the covers, my wife sweetly says, "So are we gonna f*** or what?" Man I like this extreme assertiveness! Try it on him!
2007-01-08 08:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jekyl and Hyde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE the control. Surprise him!
Buy a bondage kit - go to a toy store - rent some porn - DO something yourself to spice it up, instead of asking silly questions.
2007-01-08 08:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by Michael, Count de Berçon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a matter of dominance, but of assertiveness. Say what you want. Be polite, sure, but be clear.
2007-01-08 08:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Verbally express what it is that you are wanting to him. He may not know that you're actually wanting to be intimate with him.
Good Luck!
2007-01-08 12:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by Allison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be initiative, and see the results for yourself.
2007-01-08 09:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by Philip76LostLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tie him up and take control!
2007-01-08 08:10:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a strapon and suprise him hell love it
2007-01-08 08:50:54 · answer #10 · answered by a1for1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋