i talk w/him, he gives me nothing back except he loves me, but i do not think he is in love with me. how do i get him to open his heart to me, this is 2nd marriage, has 2 grown children that he gives the world to, but not to me. i need to know that he is in love with me. help!!!
2007-01-08 00:01:57 · 8 answers · asked by la 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's for you to ask him. Talk to him and ask him if his inlove with you and if he says No then time to get going. Can't stay with someone who's not inlove with you
2007-01-08 00:04:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men aren't the "open up your heart and tell me what you think" creatures. They're not emotional like women. One thing they hate though is nagging. Stop begging him to open up his feelings for you. He did marry you after all. The fact that he was married before and that he has older children he adores should be no reason for concern or jealousy. He seems to be a good father and that is important. You should applaud him and support him in his love for his other children and relish in the fact that he married you. Be there for him. Nagging is not going to grab his attention. As women we have the ability and power to get alot out of men if only we know how to use it. So stop your groveling and nagging and start being more of a woman than a clinger. You want your husband to adore you? Be there for him as an understanding and supporting partner. Sexy dressing and teasing him with your womanly ways would help too.
2007-01-08 00:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has told you that he loves you, yet you consider him to be a liar. This does not bode well for the marriage. I suggest counseling to help you figure out why you do not trust your husband, and why you want to set conditions on the type of love he gives you.
He truly may not love you. But you cannot force him to love you in YOUR way and not his way. This is the issue.
2007-01-08 00:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe your jealousy of the two grown children could be shutting him down. This is your 2nd marriage. Please look within and I say that with all due respect because you need to make this marriage work.
2007-01-08 00:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear
Try to build confidence within you,and start believing him
Love is some thing should come from the heart .It cannot be measured.
May be he is loving you from inside the heart and not expressing it to you openly.
Be self relient
2007-01-08 00:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by sudha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are wired that way, they show there feelings in other ways. The more you hassle him to tell you what is on his mind the more he will bottle up. So, show him a little respect and give him some distance by not asking the question and he may suprise you by coming to you and telling you what is on his mind.
2007-01-08 00:04:29 · answer #6 · answered by phil.morris121 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You obviously aren't getting the emotional support that you need from him. "I love you" is just words unless it's backed up with actions that support them. Let him know that you're not feeling the love - and leave it at that. You may need to move on to have your needs met - he doesn't see interested in fulfilling them.
2007-01-08 00:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get another girl in the bead room, make sure she understands she is not there to take him away from you and make sure she is bi- too
make his world rock and he will love you even more
2007-01-08 00:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by david s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋