i have been friends with her for 8 years, we used to meet up down the city, once or every 2 weeks, & i moved out of my parents house in october, & i found out she was only 20mins away from me, but the last time i saw her was ''august'' the only times i can see her though in the week is 10am to 11.30am or 1.30pm to 2.30pm when her daughters are at preschool, we sometimes write letters to each other, i txt her in december to meet up & swap gifts etc, but i never heard from her, her mobile was off when i rang, letters getting unanswerd, & txts never got answerd, i still have her christmas gifts for her and her daughters,
my mum & my boyfriend think she isnt getting in contact coz she wanted to get us a xmas/moving in gift, & we picked out plates and bowls etc, & she couldnt get it, & thats why she isnt in contact with me, what should i do???? this isnt the 1st time i have had trouble with friends,
2007-01-07 23:57:32 · 10 answers · asked by saralouise_uk2002 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That's a shame. Try to contact her again and express your concerns about this, see if she comes back then.
Hope it works out OK!
2007-01-08 00:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by voodoobluesman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I hardly think embrasssment over a gift would elicit this kind of response (or lack therof). And I don't even think that she is just busy because after all that effort you made to contact her and to not receive a single response back.
I think it's more of a less than polite way of pretty much dissassociating with you. It just doesn't make sense that with so much ample time to respond and opportunities that she wasn't able to do it even once, so it pretty much gives off the impression that she doesn't care.
Not sure what you can do. You could always just mail the gifts as packages and include a letter asking about what is going on and how you feel about the matter.
But I wouldn't keep my hopes up for a response.
2007-01-08 00:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm a little confused. She only lives 20 minutes away from you so why don't you just knock on her door?!!! Your very precise with times and dates of everythin, I just wonder if maybe it's you with the problem, and maybe she just isn't as keen to be as friendly as you seem to be! Sounds like you just need to give her some space. Spending too much time with one person (best buds or not) can be very overbearing and tiresome if your not careful. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but I'm just trying to be honest and to be fair if she was any kind of friend, she would be more honest with you anyway. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. Ask her outright and if I'm on the right lines take time out to hear what she has to say so you can meet her half way and put things right. Good luck xxxx
2007-01-08 00:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by crazychicklisieloo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 24 hrs in a day, it takes a couple of minutes to text someone. She could have replied to you. She may have a new phone, thats a possible reason. Dont be running after all the time, you will only become fed up and bitter towards her. You have done all you can, leave it to her now.
2007-01-08 02:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by goobygum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Employ all possible means you can to let her know that you are still her friend no matter what, then give her the space and time. Maybe that's what she needs, but she will know you will be there when she is ready to contact again. Sometimes, as a busy mother, she overlooks her friend, and then out of guilt and embarrassment, doesn't dare to conatct you again.
2007-01-08 00:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by eazz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to meet up with your friend and tell her how you feel. explain that you still want to be friends and that not being able to buy plates shouldn't come between you. also, make sure that she hasn't misunderstood something you have said or done, after all, maybe its just a misunderstanding? hope it goes ok for you, good luck!! x
2007-01-08 00:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by Roxygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave it now. i know its hard but you seem to have tried to do everything you can for her - the ball is now in her court - let her come to you, soon she will realise when she stops getting txts etc from you that she is in the process of losing a good friend. it sometimes takes this for people to value what is good for them.
2007-01-08 00:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her with it. She will know you have been trying to get hold of her and she's obviously ignoring you.
Is she really worth all your effort? Time to move on I'd say.
2007-01-08 00:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by dadn33 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not hearing from friends usually means they don't want to keep in contact. but thats life its nothing to be worried about.
2007-01-08 00:14:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry i dont understand ur situation..buh i figure u should get ur *** over there and sort it out
2007-01-08 07:07:55 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Saммч ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋