if you think your moving in different directions from your partner - i am think i might be ready to start a family or do some travelling - my partner likes watching the football and going the pubs with his mates - we have our holidays - but id rather not go out and save the money to have more trips away - am i being unreasonable
2007-01-07 23:43:18 · 9 answers · asked by Pebbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
take a step back!!! who"s moving in different directions???
"you might be ready to start a family or go travelling???"
that is totaly two different directions!!!!(are you giving the wrong signals out)
2007-01-07 23:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not necessarily being unreasonable. You both need to sit down and look at the likes and dislikes and rate them on the possible effects they will have in your marriage. You should discuss such things and agree before even thinking of getting married as there are some of the sticky issues that affect a marriage negatively. So sit down with him and go through soul searching exercise and come up with the issues. You will be shocked at the unsaid things that will definitely have a negative effect. In the end, what matters is what the two of you decide and how you understand each other. I would rather that you agree on most of the heavy things and differ on trivialities. Good luck!
2007-01-07 23:49:48 · answer #2 · answered by Counsellor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been with him?
I have had this several times and when I want different things I have firstly sat and talked with my partner and explained the situation if he hasnt wanted the same as me we have agreed to call it a day.
I am now happily married with children but I feel that I have been able to do the things I want and not upset too many people along the way. At the end of the day you have to live your life the wayy you want to or you wont be happy. You might find that he wants the same as you in which case you cant go wrong.
Good luck and remember that you have to look after number 1.
2007-01-07 23:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by entertainer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I think you`re being very reasonable. If you don`t think you`re compatible now it won`t get any better in the future. You have to have the same interests and outlook in a relationship otherwise you`ll find you`re drifting apart in opposite directions, or resentment sets in. If you want something different from the relationship and you don`t think you`re going to achieve it better to call it a day now.
2007-01-07 23:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by The BudMiester 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people have their own things that interest them and people in a relationship need to respect each others interests and honour them.
i think if you are put on a back burner to his interests however then that is wrong - you should come first - that is what a partnership is all about. have you had a chat?
he needs to know how you feel about this - travelling and having children though are worlds apart from each other, one involves settling down and massive commitment and the other is satisfying that free spirit that must still be there in you - if thats the case are you yourself ready for kids? then you would definitely have to settle for less trips away!
all blokes like watchin the footie - my fellas mad on it but i would never berate him for it thats what he enjoys and he likes the fact that i don't get on his case bout it and he is the same with me when i have girlie nights etc.
the only peeps who can solve this are you and your man - but first i think you need to decide in your head what it is your asking of him - kids or adventure?
good luck xxx
2007-01-07 23:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you want?
there's a bit of difference between being tied down with babies and going travelling?
2007-01-08 00:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by limpit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, you talk about it, and if you can't meet half way, you go your own way before you're too old and you realise you've wasted half your life and accomplished none of your dreams.
Thats my experience anyway.
2007-01-07 23:46:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel he may want to change his ways or you may have to go your separate ways
good luck
2007-01-07 23:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by D D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationships are all about compromising
2007-01-07 23:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by Immortal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋