I met my husband 8 years ago. His son was 5 years old then. I was very surprised to find him playing with girl toys all the time. My husband said it was a phase he was going thru cause his babysitter only took care of girls so he was around dolls all the time. Well its not a phase anymore because he is going to be 14 and still likes dolls very much. I tell my husband that he needs some kind of counseling and he says hes going to look for help but he never does. How do I handle this situation. I have an 11 year old boy and anotherone on the way and Im very concern. He has even gone as far as steeling money to buy dolls. Please help.
2007-01-07 23:23:56 · 11 answers · asked by Elizabeth V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband has no sense at all does he ? He should have had this boy into therapy . There is something wrong here . He should be hanging out with his male friends and not playing with dolls . I have 2 sons and they are 23 and 25 and neither one of them played with dolls at all . I think your son should be seeing a counselor and if your husband says no ,then you gather your things and take your son and the baby and get the hell out of there and would not go back untill your husband agreed and has the stepson in therapy . you will be glad you took a stand . good luck to you .
2007-01-08 01:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that he just likes "taking care" of the dolls? Maybe he really likes taking care, feeding, dressing the dolls because deep down he wants to be a caregiver.
Maybe he has as desire to work with babies or kids. Like a nanny, (au pair), teacher, pediatrician, or maybe he has strong paternal instincts.
You can check with a counselor, but if you give him the idea there is something wrong with him - he may start to believe it.
2007-01-07 23:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by Agent99 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This young boy of 14 could be transgendered have you ever thought about that?
Does he have male friends? Does he play sports?
Counseling might help----but----if he is a collector of dolls then let it be.
When you should start really looking into things is when he starts dressing up like BARBIE to take a KEN out on dates.
2007-01-07 23:56:49 · answer #3 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your the one that needs counseling lady. Whatever your thinking it's important to love a child for who they are. Don't judge him, don't make accusations at him. Make sure he knows he CAN say what he needs to without being thought of as a weirdo so he'll be able to open up and talk to you when the time is right.
2007-01-07 23:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) May be a rather unhealthy obsession. Do people in his parents' families have an OCD history?
2) He may be slightly autistic, or have Asperger's. Kids like that can obsess over one single thing for long.
3) Is he "gender non-conforming"? He may be transgendered or transsexual. In that case, there is nothing anyone can do but wait and see.
2007-01-07 23:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by tlakkamond 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The stealing money is a concern but was it because you wouldn't let him have the dolls? Otherwise what's the big deal?
2007-01-07 23:26:50 · answer #6 · answered by patriciamariegrant 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no problem, my friend played with his GI Joe's until he was 16.
Unless there is semen on the dolls, there shouldn't be any problem.
2007-01-08 00:08:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as he stays out of your makeup and away from Bette Midler, I think he'll turn out ok.
2007-01-07 23:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by Soundguy 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about him playin with girls toys,am a girl and i was so obssesed playin football and am still,and dont worry am very femme
2007-01-07 23:45:19 · answer #9 · answered by Tara 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find a counselor....good luck
2007-01-07 23:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋