I am an Asian male in college. I have dated some Caucasian and latina girls in the past two years. I am actually a proponent of interracial dating, and I honestly find interracial dating more pleasant than dating girls of my race. My parents don't understand this though. They always assume that I will get a Korean wife in the future. It pisses me off so much that they narrow down the range of choice "for my own good." I just don't see why parents can't tolerate interracial dating/marriage. This is what my mama once said:
"Even if you fall in love with a white girl, I don't think anyone will approve of the relationship. First of all, white folks don't want their daughters to marry Asian boys. Secondly, your children will blame you for making them mongrels. And the cultural differences between you and your wife will aggravate the situation."
She's prolly right to a great extent, but I still am offended by the way they think. I don't really believe in racial purity.
2007-01-07 23:10:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
It has been my experience, those of Asian descent seem more concerned with "racial purity" than other races. It is prejudice, pure and simple. Children only "hate" because thats what they are TAUGHT to do, and children are not MONGRELS, they're CHILDREN. I also find it interesting, your mother says WHITES won't approve of their daughters marrying Asians, when it's obvious it's your mother who doesn't approve, but since she is afraid to examine her own bigotry, she shifts the blame to whites (shifting blame to white people seems to be every other races' national pastime anymore).
If different homo sapiens races weren't meant to interbreed, they would not be ABLE to, it would be like dogs breeding with cats, it would be incompatible, gene-wise.
Studies have been shown, in something like 500 years, there will be no more blonde blue eyed people, due to interbreeding. I think it would be marvelous if there was JUST ONE RACE (call it the MONGREL RACE, in honor of your mother), because then, we as a species can stop all this stupidity about eye shape or melanin content and get to solving some REAL problems facing the world.
2007-01-07 23:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Most from overseas prefer their children marry from their own race to keep intact their culture alive. And it solves a lot of problems up front because that person will understand the ways of the culture better. My daughter married a Greek, they accepted her, and her them, but it sometimes is difficult to understand their ways of doing things but she says "oh well, thats just their way" and it works fine.
As for blacks/whites, its a matter of seeing the children being accepted by either class as they grow up. I don't know any other reason for none of mine got into that. As for Asians we see several of our culture married to Asians and can't see its bothered them.....a marriage is how you make it....its hard enough being of the same race without putting the extra strain of learning the others ways..and there is a difference you would find.
2007-01-08 00:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsygrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bert T hit it right on the head
your parent's culture and their fears here in USA is that you'll assimilate too much and blend in and in the process kill what they see is the their perfect culture.. the funny thing is the same arguement heralded by all cultures, I married a Veitnamese women ( I am Hispanic ), her mom is kool as none of her 5 children have married a Vietnamese, but there are some of her firends who insist you can only marry the same culture as other cultures are sub par compared to theirs. this arrogance by bigotry is a form of social control and heavy guilt plays well into it, as a feeling of loyalty and obideiance to your parents plays heavily in that and they know it, but if you are born here or even lived enough time here sooner or later you become immersed in the American way of life , and the basis is freedom of choice and learning to live with those choices. and nothing says that more than being your own person and loving whom you want.
being your own person is the hardest thing to do especially if your parents control the purse strings. my mother want one of her 4 kids to marry hispanic, none of us did, that was the risk you take when you immigrate from your native land to the great USA
2007-01-09 15:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of what needed to be said, Bert has said. what remains is since you feel she is "prolly" right either she has been successful in making you too think like her or that you have similar ways of thinking about the same.
Interracial marriages cant be disregarded nor should they be given so much regard. since marriages as anyway a person to person choice.
2007-01-07 23:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by gemini0903 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first guy was right. Asians have very stereotypical views of people by race and in my opinion tend to be very racist.
Setting that aside, look, there are so many interracial relationships in America, it's silly to allow it to stop you from dating someone you love. Not to mention all the problems with inter-religous relationships, socio economic differences, etc etc, tell your parents it could be far far worse.
2007-01-08 01:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by huckleberry 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should do what you feel in your heart is the right thing to do. there are many cases of " mixed bloods " or " cross cultural " marriages which have and have not worked. people are people and they are both good and bad. the color pigment is just color and does not matter in regards to a person's true quality.
2007-01-08 00:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry dude, your mom is a biggot.
2007-01-08 16:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by Import Car Salesman 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋