so my 12 year old daughter just started her period last night, how do i talk to her about boys without making her feel awkward? i would let her mother talk to her but her mother id dead. so i was wondering what i could do!
2007-01-07 22:36:02 · 10 answers · asked by FUEGO 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
She is going to feel awkward, and might have even if you were her mom. It's just an uncomfortable situation for a lot of girls.
I agree that buying her a book is a good idea. Focus on both the physical changes that she is going through but also the emotional ones too. If you don't have access to good books on that topic, do some online research and share either websites or printouts with her. Let her know that you are available if she has questions.
It would also be a good idea to talk to a woman who she is close to and ask her to be available for your daughter, then let your daughter know that she can always ask "insert name here" if she doesn't feel comfortable coming to you. She may prefer to talk to someone who has been through it.
Hopefully, you have been communicating your morals, beliefs and opinions all along. So most of this won't be new to your daughter, just reinforcing what she already knows.
2007-01-08 02:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is going to feel embarrassed and awkward no matter how you talk to her about it.give her a couple of days to let every thing sink in.If you want buy her a book about it,that way she will know that what she is going through is on your mind,and as you hand her the book tell her that you are there for her if she needs to talk about any thing.Then after a couple of days you can ask her did she find the book interesting,and did the book help with any thing that she needed to know,and from there you can bring the discussion in about boys that way the awkwardness between you won't be as uncomfortable.I hope that the talk goes well.Take care.
2007-01-08 07:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well id talk to her for u, but u might not think that a good idea because im a 15 y.o. guy...but anyway...i think it would depend on the relationship that you 2 have. since youre a single parent, you are going to need a good relationship with your daughter because in just a couple months she'll be a teen and THERE WILL BE BOYS. you need to tell her the kinds of guys out there. the good ones and the bad ones. and I WOULD NOT SUGGEST A BOOK. not only would i tell her bout boys but the sex talk...but when i got "THE TALK" it was just about the "action and physical" part of it. you need to let her know that what shes going through is totally natural and you need to teach her about the stuff that goes on after ejactulation. yeah sure shes only 12 and im sure shes the sweetest girl in the world but this generation is having sex at lesser and lesser ages so she will need to know the truth about sex and abortion and contraception. She will eventulally learn about it in school, like i did, but she need to know it sooner than later.
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2007-01-09 20:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by MistaTim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to be awkward for the both of u I'm not going to lie but it is only as hard as you make it. I'd talk to her first ask her what she knows about that kind of stuff then feel in any of the blanks let her know you love her. I know this must be hard for you your baby girl is growing up into a woman. Just don't make her feel like a baby lol
2007-01-08 10:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk to her about boys, talk to her about her body... Does she have an aunt or grandma??? They could talk to her too! You should try to get comfortable talking with her about anything though... Be honest & understanding. She could also ask her Dr. OB/GYN any questions. The more you talk, the easier it will be & less awkward. Try not to get angry or embarassed (don't share personal stories) & remember there is no such thing as a stupid question! Good Luck!
2007-01-09 17:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by Boppysgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ought to buy a book regarding such stuff. Or call some close female relative of urs to explain to her if u r feeling too awkard. But make sure u do explain to her bcoz u dont want her to get wrong information from other people...
2007-01-08 09:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her a book about it and tell her that if she ever has any questions about anything, she can always come to you. A good book to get is "The Body Book for Girls" by American Girl. It talks about EVERYTHING. You can get it at a bookstore or at Bath and Body Works with the American Girl stuff.
2007-01-08 18:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy books! And lots of them LOL.. Does she have an aunt or grandmother she's close to? That helps. I would let them talk to her. Just tell them what it is you want her to know and what you think is too much so they don't cross that line. it's sooo awkward to talk to your father about girly stuff LOL..
2007-01-08 11:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by onfire921 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to her in question.... straight out- dont worry if she give answers such as, mhmmm, yea, nod, ect
also no reason to go in detail, at my school, in 5th we had the talk about periods, 6th the 'worth the wait' talk (explains male places, female places, abstinace) and then 7th it goes deeper into the info, and 8th even deeper.......... chances are she has found ALOT from her friends (mine started 9,10,and 11, i still havent started) and has had at least 1 of these talks
2007-01-08 10:51:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will learn more from her friends that from you!!! Surely she has had sex ed in school somewhere along the way. I would ask her about her values rather than lecture her.
2007-01-08 12:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋