Everything becomes boring after a while.Why?Some people seem so content.Why?
2007-01-07 22:03:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
A few things to think about:
1. The body/mind adapts to stimulation in your environment and needs more and more stimulation in order to have the same effect on you. This is primarily to protect us against prolonged pain: To reduce suffering, the body is geared to become slowly "numb" to a prolonged intense stimulation, and thus we will be able to deal with long-term pain. Unfortunately, this applies to positive feelings as well; we need more and more stimulation in order to have the same sort of "pleasurable high" we experienced at the beginning. The body gets numb to the pleasure; we have to keep searching for another "high."
2. Curiosity drives us to explore things we don't yet know or understand. Once we are satiated and the mystery is resolved, our interest fades and we look for something else to discover. Mentally, people do need a bit of mystery in order to remain content with their lives.
3. Often we try to find fulfillment in what we have or in what we can achieve. As soon as we reach our goal, however, the rush of succeeding peaks and begins to fade; and now we are left feeling empty and unsatisfied because we no longer have a goal to pursue. So we end up like racedogs chasing the proverbial rabbit, without a real end to our running.
People are generally content if they are able to live in and enjoy the moment for what it is. They don't think too long about what they don't have; they don't look for happiness elsewhere (as the fulfillment of a goal, for example, or an elusive "soulmate" who will permanently fulfill their longings); they simply invest happiness and pleasure in whatever and whoever life brings them at that very moment and can be content with that.
And when they do have short-term and long-term goals, the attainment of the goal is less important than enjoying the experience of getting there.
Some people use spiritual faith to achieve this mindset. (They feel secure in life because they believe that Someone is looking out for them -- so they don't have to worry about what might happen tomorrow and can just enjoy today as it is.) Others simply have an innate "in the moment" outlook on life that helps.
It's not an easy shift to make -- to being willing to find happiness in something other than the success of long-term goals or acquiring something you've wanted. You will have to actively work at investing in what is directly around you and finding ways to "feel alive" just by doing whatever it is you can do right now, today, with everything you've got. Enjoy the moment.
The "present moment" is where you live. The future doesn't yet exist; the past is over. Happiness is only found right now, in the intersection of past and future, in this very moment.
2007-01-08 03:16:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds just like my husband. Nothing holds his interested for very long. Always have to have a new hobby that costs a lot. I am the opposite, never ask for much and do not care about money.
2007-01-07 22:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get interested in something do you get overwhelmed by it and depend on it too much. Or do you think abou it too much.
Maybe that is the thing. Over dependency on any thing will only destroy the interest. Try being interested in many things at a time and time slice different interests based on your past experience with interests.
2007-01-07 23:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by Ajane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the more we get, the more we want - most of us by nature are selfish like this - lol.
i find the dalai lama puts things into perspective - if your interested in this @ all buy one of his books, the one i have has him on the front with a deep reddish background.
2007-01-08 04:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel mate, i get that like that quite often. Can't help you with an answer just wanted to let you know there are at least 2 of us like it.
2007-01-07 22:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are too picky and always want to improve on things? Be content with what you have.
2007-01-07 22:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are greedy. Try to appreciate things for what they are instead of thinking what you would rather have.
2007-01-07 22:09:04 · answer #7 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a man.....a very fickle breed
2007-01-07 22:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by jude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a tumbleweed.
2007-01-07 22:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by saumitra s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bacause you want more and so do i
2007-01-07 22:08:48 · answer #10 · answered by auntsid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋