she is engaged and loves him so much, but she has a major crush on this guy that we both know, so do i. one drunken night she asked me to promise her that i wouldnt do anything with him. we shared a kiss on new years and i told her. she was ok about it. but now he is interested in me. what do i do? should i break the promise as it could be a chance for happiness and fun for me and if i do break the promise do i tell her? others have said she is selfish for doing this and if she was a good friend she would let me have him. PLEASE HELP!!!!
2007-01-07 20:47:53 · 11 answers · asked by minx_1486 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First talk with her!!! Tell her Ur feelings and make her understand or ask her to tell U why is she so selfish and why is she engaged than with someone else!!!
If she doesnt understands than try the boy without her knoweledge and if he is the one and he deserves everything U could do to him than let HER go!!! If she cant handle it than U should blackmail her with this secret!!!!!!!!(this is a joke)
-talk to her
-find out whats about that guy
-find out whose more important to U
Goood luck and have a happy life U deserv it!!!!!!!
Be selfish!!!!!!!!! its worth it!!
2007-01-07 20:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by L...A... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're walking through a minefield. You realize that, don't you?
Point #1: She's engaged. She shouldn't be considering doing anything with another guy.
Point #2: She is apparently asking you to leave the way clear for her with a second man! What's wrong with this picture????? Talk about wanting to have your cake and eat it too!
No matter how you slice it, you're on the verge of losing your friend...or at the very least, having a wedge driven between you that might never fully go away. 2 friends fighting over the same person is just stupid and not worth the damage it'll do. It's easy to think "Well if I get him, then I won't need her anymore because he'll be all I need!". Suuuure. Breakups happen, you want your friend back, but you hurt them...so they tell you to go to hell. That's got to be the most short-sighted outlook I've ever heard of, so I hope you wouldn't think along those lines.
There is only 1 clean way out, and that's open honesty. Remind her she's engaged, she has no claim on this other guy, and you like him. Furthermore, he likes YOU in return! She should be with her fiancee while you give things a shot with your mutual guyfriend.
So yes, she's being extremely selfish.
2007-01-08 04:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by ardra71 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she was truly your friend, then she would not care if you were with the guy. She is engaged and needs to focus on her own man. She is very selfish for acting this way. She should allow you the same chance to be happy, and she should be happy for you that you found a great guy that is interested! I say go for it and let her worry about her own problems.
2007-01-08 04:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She Is VERY Selfish, Go For Him Tel Her And If She Gets Mad She Wasn't A Good Friend After All..
2007-01-08 04:51:45 · answer #4 · answered by amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tuff for her if she says she loves the man shes with why is she stopping you to be this this other man she cant have them both ,shes with someone so friend or not you go with the other one and just tell her ,,you are happy and with some one so why souldnt i and these sort of promoses are stupid,,,,if she was a friend at all she would want you to be happy too
2007-01-08 09:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by whitecloud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you should go for it,if she gets up set then she shouldnt be with her boy friend and perhaps if she gets that up set her boy friend will see it and know there not meant to be together,so your doing both of you a favour you go for it thats not something a friend asks you to do not a true friend no matter how long its been
2007-01-08 04:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jesus! your friend is a total beyotch for being so jealous. The reason she wants you not to get with him is bc she knows her marriage wont last, and she wants (the guy that likes you) as a rebound.
2007-01-08 04:51:05 · answer #7 · answered by cmil8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has a man u need to take him up on the offer ,,she cant have her cake and eat it too but you can always tell her how good it taste ; )
2007-01-08 04:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by tiffanyh2323 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is selfish, tell her to bite it! She has a man, you deserve one too!
2007-01-08 04:51:32 · answer #9 · answered by his angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that she ought to focus on her fiancee and if you really like that guy u shd go for a relationship
2007-01-08 05:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by dramaqueen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋