my wife and i always fight for no big reason, she's 10 years older than me has a lot of expirience in life that makes him think that shes always right and i'm wrong. i just wanna give up on her. my problem is the custody of our daugther. i don't have any job except for the little business that she once had provide and she let me manage.
2007-01-07 20:46:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anjoe R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
While fighting isnt good for your daughter. If you decide to divorce you would have to get a job, pay 20 plus % child support,and only get your daughter every other weekend. Really it comes down to whats more important your not fighting or seeing your daughter on a regular basis. Best of Luck.
2007-01-07 20:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by J&A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband is six years younger than I am and this is my second marriage and his first. I can kind of relate. Sweetheart, your wife has already been to the puppet show and she's seen the strings. She's in a different place in life than you are. My suggestion is that if you want her to be more respectful of you, then do respectable, responsible things. Show her you're a man. Take initiative to do things without being asked. Help with your daughter without being asked. Show responsibility (I have no way of knowing whether you do these things already or not, but I know it can't hurt,) show concern for your wife and her well-being, and just show that you're the man of the house in the best possible way. Being man of the house doesn't mean you're the one who yells the loudest and gives the most ultimatums and violates the rights of others. It means you're caring, hard-working, forward-thinking and looking out for everyone. Show manly, responsible qualities and I'll bet she'll not be able to get enough of you and will stop giving you that feeling as if she just told you to shut up & go to your room.
2007-01-07 21:04:20 · answer #2 · answered by Stacey P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi there...ok so youre wife is 10 years older than you .....well to begin with that didnt bother you when you started out ....so why use that as an excuse .....stick with me on this you will see what im saying .....what you need to do is some big thinking an=bout how you really feel about her forget about the fights at the moment ....do you still love this woman the mother of youre daughter ......?now if it is no its over then you need to sit down and talk that through ....and that is not going to be easy ....but on the other hand you find out that you still love this woman and really want to be with her ...then guess what you are going to have to do is sit down and talk ....the suprizing thing is you 2 are arguing and fighting because you 2 have forgotton how to talk to each other.....and as for youre little girl well i feel so sorry for her she has a mummy and a daddy that she loves with all her heart and what she gets to see is you 2 tearing chunks out of each other .....that really is showing her how to behave in a relationship for the future ....congratulations to you both on that one !!!!youre other problem is with you .....stick with me on this .....you do not seem to have any self confidence at all at the moment you seem really down on things look the only way i know how to say this is .....is this is youre life you have so many different ways you can live youre life ....sad,unhappy ,depressed,or you can takr control and decide what you want in youre life and get of youre bum and get it ......the only one that will stop you is you .....you want this relationship to work ....start talking so what if it ends up a bit heated again if its going to get it sorted once and for all then do it then both you and youre wife and daughter will start to live life and start being happy ....good luck and take care xx
2007-01-07 21:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
kid or not you need to think of whats best for the child. Is it okay for your kid to see you guys fight all the time and to think that this is normal for a relationship? Go see a counsiler and get some help. You need to let her know that you are not a child even if you are younger. And stop acting like one! Start treating her better. ANd you BETTER NOT lay a hand on her or you will go to jail and get a cool new cell mate and never see your child again. WHo would want to go see daddy is jail while hes wearing make-up for his new best friend?
2007-01-07 20:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One day you will discover that the little things aren't worth fighting over. It really doesn't matter who's right and who's wrong. If people really think about it, life is too short to live it unhappily. If people are fighting over little things, it often is really something else that is bothering them. Sometimes it's control, sometimes it's jealousy and often times it's because someones been hurt before and it brings a flashback of what someone has done to her in a previous relationship.
You have to figure out who is the aggressor in alot of your fights, you or her and truly be honest. If it is you, you have to figure out whether you are just trying to tell her that you are the man and you will listen to me no matter what. If it is her, I would bet that she is just trying to control and manipulate your mind and prove that she is older with experience. She probably thinks that shes been there, done that and doesn't even give you a chance or listen to your opinion.
In my own relationship, my husbands opinion is just as important to me as my own and I listen to it all the time. I allow him to be a man irregardless that I am older then he is.
It is very important to figure out what the fights are about before you think of divorce because it may not be worth divorcing over if you really love her and she loves you. If it is a control thing, it will never end with her if you divorce her or not. If you fight over little things now, ask yourself how it will be if you have to fight over custody of your daughter.
Lots of luck to you!
2007-01-07 21:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by LM 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U tell her you the boss and give her a taste of the back of your hand once.I bet she wont argue wit u no more,is your family business have her as they say performing a public service?
2007-01-07 20:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by makaveli0979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 10 they're probably just his friends. Stop reading too much into it, if they are those kind of calls why does your son give out your number and think this is okay? Take some responsibility and show the boy some morals instead of coming to Yahoo talking nonsense, how old are you? 15? Acting like a child.
2016-03-29 15:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that you love her and say sorry to her for every thing..and maybe shell calm down,,
2007-01-07 20:56:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋