At first I thought it was a huge mistake afterwards, then it turned out to be i think the greatest thing to happen to us... please don't get all religious on me, i just want to hear from people that have gone through a similar situation. (it was with another woman and yes we are both bi,) I am posting the question here because i like the community :)
2007-01-07 20:43:57 · 17 answers · asked by !kyradarkmoon! 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
no kids and all were healthy, this was some one we knew.
2007-01-07 21:07:31 · update #1
It can, but it depends on the relationship. For my wife and I, it helped alot because we were able to step outside our roles and see what the other liked. For others, even others who aren't jealous, selfishness of one or the other or even just appathy of one or the other towards the third can make a threesome a horrible experience.
2007-01-08 04:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think it depends. It depends on the reasons why you are going to have a threesome. If you have a threesome because there is a problem in the marriage and you think that a threesome will help fix it...... forget it! That is only going to make it worse in the long run. If your relationship is very secure and the threesome is there truly for the pleasure of both you and your husband, then it can have some good effects on the relationship. It is a dangerous thing, but many relationships have been strengthened by it and many, many have been destroyed by it.
2007-01-07 22:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by Amy L 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yes, fulfilling fantasies within the context of a strong, secure relationship can enhance the relationship. Inviting others into a rocky relationship will only make it worse. Done for the right reasons, with the right people, with the right attitude, it can be a wonder experience that brings a couple closer together.
2007-01-08 06:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Honestly, if you are both bi, agreed it would spice things up and satisfy you, and wanted it, I would say yes. Apparently it did for you.
In most cases, it does more harm than good, but each couple is different.
Just make sure that you remember that the marriage bond is still between you and your wife. If you begin to see additional partners on an emotional and not just sexual level, this can be not great for the marriage.
2007-01-07 20:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I, too, have had good experiences with threesomes especially if you are the same threesome everytime. (I mean don't use a different woman each time, use the same one) I also watch Maury and there could be the problem of one of you just wanting a twosome. Either you want the girl only or your hubby does. That would be bad but Hubby Fred and I have been together 20 yrs and we don't have that problem.
2007-01-07 20:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sharyn 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
You've already decided it was the right thing to do. So, you apparently just posted here to brag.
So, no matter how disgusting I think your behavior is it does no good to reply since you're not looking for an answer.
2007-01-08 02:41:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It can be a huge help to at least one if not both people.
The main trouble that can happen later on is not guilt but jealously.
Lot of studies to show that it is better guy-girl-girl... just because women react differently then men... but I am sure its really dependent upon the people involved....
One of the two will definitely get more out of it than the other one will, but you can never tell before hand which one that will be.
2007-01-07 22:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by wolf560 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think at the end of the end,it's up to you both what you do in the bedroom.Ive seen many of relationships Brock down because of threesomes,if you are both still very happy together and dint get jealous over each other then i think it should work out fine
2007-01-07 20:47:59 · answer #8 · answered by devil 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think it really depends on the relationship. If the couple is secure and are able to seperate Love from Sex then I think that a 3 some can be good for a relationship, if the couple i not secure than I think it should be avoided until the relationship is strengthened
2007-01-07 20:47:34 · answer #9 · answered by fl_lopez 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yes, I do think couples trying out new things can help a marriage. I haven't been in the same situation though.
2007-01-07 20:55:54 · answer #10 · answered by i luv teh fishes 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋