I am 8 months pregnant and my husband decded to leave us last month. He claimes he loves me but is not in love with me any longer. I suggested we work on the relationship but he does not want to. I tried being there for him since we are having a baby together but my hate for him has grown so much that i have had to cut him out of my life. I don't answer his calls, i just generally stay away from him. I know this is a tuff question but if i stay away from him long enough do you think he will come to his sences that he has lost his family. I don't plan on letting him come back but i was just wondering what everyone thought.
2007-01-07 20:42:54 · 12 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OMG, what a jerk! Talk about not being able to face your responsibilities. I don't know if he will ever "come to his senses" - it may be that there were never any "senses" to speak of. He'll probably continue on bumbling through his life just doing stuff that feels good on the spur of the moment, then bailing when the going gets tough, being none the wiser for it. Forget this immature punk, you can do much better than this. He did you a favor by leaving, good riddance.
"I love you but I'm not IN love with you anymore" is such a bunch of BS. In other words, "I did not think my choices through, I have misled you into thinking I was serious - but I really wasn't, I got kinda tired of you now that the new-ness has worn off, and ready to go and play some more. Certainly, I wouldn't want to be responsible for the choices I had made, or to honor my wedding vows...Who would ever want to do such a silly thing?" What a loser...
2007-01-07 21:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are one well put together young woman! It's too bad for him that he isn't mature enough to be all that he promised that he would be when he said his vows! A male that leaves his wife when she's pregnant with his child is just cold and cruel. I can guarantee he's in lust with someone else. Later on when he sees how well you've handled his meanness and you're looking happy and moving on with life and perhaps a new man....he will try and weasel his way back into your life, because then he will be 'safe'. Right now he's terrified of responsibility and too immature to trust you or himself, so he's copping out by running away. I'm sure he wishes he wasn't such a coward but his father never taught him how to be a father or a man.
You are gonna be just fine sweetie! God Bless.
2007-01-07 20:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, this is a difficult time in your life. I hope you have a good support group (family and friends) to help you through this crisis. I respect your husband for his honesty and for removing himself from the relationship rather than living a lie. Whatever his reasons are you have to accept his choice. It is possible he is confused or overwhelmed. He needs to work that out. As for you, you need to take extra special care of yourself because you are pregnant. You cold ask him to attend marriage councelling just to be sure this is the right choice for him. You could let him know if he agrees to go to marriage councelling there will be no guarantees regarding the outcome of the councelling. Ask him to do it for the entire family, himself, you and the kids. I wish you luck!
2007-01-07 22:08:09 · answer #3 · answered by denise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm trying to find the words to sat to you to, without expressing the hurt I feel for you and your unborn child. I'm sorry you have a jerk for a husband and a deadbeat for a babies father. Since he is not in love you go get a good attorney for your divorce and child support. He's not in love with you because I bet you , if you dig deeper you'll find someone else ( pray for them ). You go get that support for your kid and don't waste time doing it. Don't worry about if he is coming to his senses. You just wonder about the health of your baby.I think the outcome is and always is... He no longer want you. So even if he come back to his senses, why would you take him back?
2007-01-07 21:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, I dont think he will relize anything. guys are friggin weak and immature to leave when they leave and the woman is pregnant and that close to due date. I hate giving this comparison, but look at britney spears and her ex...he has like 5 kids, and when he got with britney, his ex was 8 months pregnant!! he hasnt "come to his senses"
Oh...dont let him off that easy...you better get child support from him, and generally the less he sees the kid, the more he would have to pay in support!
2007-01-07 22:38:34 · answer #5 · answered by dianek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, pushing him away will make him turn to someone else. If you do not want him anymore then tell him and you both can move on amicably. If you do want him back suggest a separation with dating & such to rebuild the romance. Either way you have to be able to communicate for your child(ren). Best of luck.
2007-01-07 20:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by J&A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he may have freaked out about the child, had a little personal crisis. However its too late to completly cut him out of you life for good. Whatever you do, don't use your child as a weapon, this will only make matters worse for yourself and your child. I guess I am asking you to do is put you child first in this situation, and think what your child would want.
2007-01-07 21:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by BURN180 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
top priority take good care of yourself and the baby! stay away from him completely he is not worth it. what kind of a man is he, after doing what he did to you and the baby. a guy did that to me and when my daughter became older she was in homecoming so many times, she became a model, and she became a beauty queen and also was named most photogenic, best gown , best swimsuit, best talent. and the icing on the cake was when the master of ceremony said only immediate family member are allowed on stage with the queen. i was the only one allowed not him. so carma does happen and pay back time is a wonderful *****.
2007-01-07 20:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by prettypueo1812 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, one day he is going to wake up and realise what he has lost... I am sorry this has happened to you, but think you are doing the right thing not to let him back, I have a very low opinion of him - to have left you when you were 8 months pregnant is unforgivable......... Good Luck with your baby.............................
2007-01-07 20:46:44 · answer #9 · answered by melark 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what a f***er he is. keep your stance and i really dont think he will come to his senses. good luck with the birth
2007-01-07 22:23:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋