My boyfriend Jake does not think that he wants a baby boy right now. But I am 110% sure that I want one. I told him yesterday that I was trying to have his baby for him. He told me that he will break up with me if I do not go back on the pill. WHAT DO I DO!?! Should I just tell him that I am back on, and hope that I get pregnant soon so I do not have to lie anymore or what. I know he does not really want to break up with me, and I know that he really does want a baby. I am 16 year old captain of the cheerleading squad. I will get a baby.
2007-01-07 20:31:12 · 24 answers · asked by summernjake4eva 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I WOULD NEVER BE ON WELFARE! MY FAMILY IS WEALTHY. WE BELONG TO A COUNTRY CLUB. MY FATHER IS A DOCTOR MY MOTHER IS A LAWYER. MY BOYFRIEND IS ON A POPULAR CANADIAN TV SHOW.
2007-01-07 21:19:41 · update #1
women who trick men should go to jail
if i were him i wold run............ and run fast
GET A LIFE
2007-01-07 20:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Summer, I can't believe you haven't taken into consideration anything that Jake has said. I've been following your posts over the last couple of days and I'm wondering why you need to keep asking for everyone's advice, because it's obvious no matter what anyone directly in the situation or answering your posts is saying, you're quite happy to go ahead and do what YOU want. Not even considering those involved.
Jake has voiced his opinion that he DOES NOT want a child right now. Take note: if you are found to by lying to him and tricking him into this pregnancy... you are bound to be left alone and single... with a baby in tow and no one to help you!
THe fact that you can't even make a mature decision regarding this situation confirms for me that the level of maturity and responsibility required to bring a child into this world, is just not happening for you.
You keep mentioning in your posts that you are the captain of the cheerleading squad... WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT HAVE TO DO WITH RAISING A CHILD? You've mentioned it in nearly all your posts. Unless you plan on throwing your child around the room or making it do cartwheels... being a cheerleader has NOTHING to do with raising a child!!!!
Summer.... GROW UP and think about other people. Imagine if you asked Jake not to do something and he did it. For a change, put yourself in other people's shoes!
2007-01-07 22:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jake obviously does not want to have any kind of serious relationship with you (by serious, I mean MARRIAGE). Don't trap any man into marriage, or into becoming a parent when they don't want to -- it will only cause him to resent you and he will probably leave you unwed, pregnant and washed-up at 16 with no future, not education (what education could you be getting if you have time to screw around and scheme about getting knocked-up). What you do now will set you on the course of your life -- where do you want to be 10 years from now? Stop living in the moment and wake up! Take time to go to college, get a good job, get married (I hope you were planning on getting married before you got pregnant) and THEN plan a family. It just makes more sense -- then you won't have to clean houses and live off Food Stamps. I know that you are probably very cute now, but once you're pregnant, those little boys at school won't see you as so cute anymore. Just please look before you leap, honey.
Sounds like you're living in a dream world -- what if your family disinherits you because you are an embarrassment? You have to consider all aspects to this equation. Its just not cute to be 16 with a big belly sticking out with no "Baby Daddy" around because you've shut him out of your life by betraying him.
Good luck with it all. I hope you make a smart choice.
2007-01-07 21:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by melaniewtfs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are too young yourself how do you think you will cope with a baby. Your boyfriend is very wise to not want kids right now. Go back on the pill and do not lie to your boyfriend. You will only be making the situation worse. Wait a couple of yrs, get to know each other better and then when you are grown up you can then go for a baby. You still have lots and lots of time ahead to have a baby.
2007-01-07 20:59:23 · answer #4 · answered by trushka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off if you are just 16 you don't need to do this. What are you trying to do if youre really only 16? Throw your whole life away? You have a whole life in front of you. If you have a kid you will probably end up losing your bf and you will have to quit cheerleading and school will be very hard on you. There is no reason to be pregnant right now. Youre bf is even telling you to wait. How are you going to raise this kid? If you go to school and plan on staying in school then don't do it because you have to be 100% ready financially ready and able to be on your own. Im sorry dear but right now youre none of those three. Please wait. Dont bring a baby into this situation.
2007-01-07 20:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like the most spoiled, self-centered, brat in the world. Are you crazy? Don't throw your life away by having a baby at 16. Your boyfriend sounds like a real piece of work too, but at least he doesn't want a baby at this stage of his life. Do you have any idea what kind of changes you will experience in your life with a baby to care for? Are you expecting to have a nanny raise it for you? Your daddy is a Doctor and member of a country club...big deal! Does that mean that you don't have a responsibility to a child? Ask your father what he thinks you should do.
2007-01-11 09:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by ta2dpilot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O...16 you say. Oh dear. I hate to sound like mother hen, but having a baby is not all rosy and sweet as it sounds. It calls in for a lot more responsibility especially during the 1 year. It's gonna drain you out completely, not to mention financial implications, time its gonna take off your studies, no social life because the baby clings to you....if you still decide to go ahead, the fact remains that your b/f does not want a baby...you obviously don't have the same priorities and maybe he is frightened as well (assuming he is not much older than you)....
You may want to think this through further....
2007-01-07 20:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey i would just wait if i were u to have a baby u r young and everything u have a whole life a head of u and make sure u want to be with him and even get married before u have children it is very hard trust me i first got pregnant when i was 14 and i had to change my whle life cause i was pregnant and it really sucks u will no longer be aloud to do cheer leading if u r pregnant and u may want to drop out of that now if u want to get pregnant or u can risk getting pregnant and losing the baby and if he says he will break up with u if u got pregnant then u might not wanna lie cause sooner or later he will find out and i dont think u want to have a baby with no father or do u good luck i hope u make the right choice
2007-01-07 20:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by sarita a 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ha, I told you he probably didn't want a baby, didn't I? You NEED to stop lying to yourself...you don't need either a boyfriend OR a baby right now!! You're still a child, honey! I do have to commend you for actually talking to him, though, instead of trying to impregnate yourself without his knowledge like you planned to.
You've contradicted yourself, though...he told you he doesn't want a baby and that if you don't go back on the pill that he will break up with you, yet a few lines down you proclaim he will not break up with you and that he DOES want a baby...it can't be both!!
Wait until you are an adult to have your children: no doubt you would love your baby if you had one so young, but you will wish you had waited until you were done LIVING FOR YOU before you became a mother. Trust me!!
2007-01-07 20:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by BraidyLocks 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I told you he would break up w/ you. You won't be captain of the cheerleading squad w/ a baby. You will be a single mom carrying around spit rags and may never finish high school. Grow up, you are obviously not mature enough to have a baby if you think it will be great.
2007-01-07 21:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow are you insane. If he says he doesn't want a baby than that means he doesn't want one, and you have no right to take that choice away from him. Plus you are only 16 how do you plan on supporting a child at your age. If i was your boyfriend I would have already left you. Please stop and think about what you are doing....if you don't you will end up pregnant, single, and most likely on welfare, Is this really how you pictured your life? LETS HOPE NOT
2007-01-07 20:36:22 · answer #11 · answered by Shannon A 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋