You know how some people have to be high or drunk after work or on thier days off. My boyfriend is one of those. I don't understand. Why can't we have a good time sober??
2007-01-07 19:44:53 · 14 answers · asked by saseebo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You could. He could, too. However, he CHOOSES NOT TO. It's not about whether or not you care about him... or he about you. It's about making a decision about your life. Are you willing to spend your life with someone who spends his time and money in that kind of behavior? If he's not sharing with you the life you've always dreamed of now, you need to expect that he won't change just because you want him to.
2007-01-07 19:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by Amy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally used to have this problem, I used to do everything except shoot up. I have since been sober with the exception of occassional social drinking. What he needs is an outlet for some problem in his life, this could be a number of things. For me it was depression. What worked for me to quit abusing substances was for my wife to find out about my depression, I kept this very indescreet. Many people didn't even know I was depressed. She helped me find the help that I needed to get past most of my depression. So I guess that my advice to you would be to ask him why and help him in whatever way he needs help. You may need to do a little investigative work. I know that my wife did, we were together for 4 years before I quit using.
2007-01-08 04:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by BURN180 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah I know how you feel. My fiance use to be that way until he got a DUI. He went to rehab and AA. Now he only drinks 1 or 2 during the week and maybe a 6 pack on the weekends. I am really glad he never got on the weed. Sit down and have a chat with him and tell him how you feel. It may work and it may not. Who knows. Good Luck
2007-01-08 03:53:36 · answer #3 · answered by nashvillekat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't be sober because from the sounds of it, he has a bit of a substance problem.
If he isn't willing to get help, it's hopeless.
Maybe you should find someone who can have a good time sober.
2007-01-08 03:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by Desiree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people do stuff like this so they don't have to deal with the things in life they can't handle or accept and you need to get him some help because it's not gonna get any better until he does. Good Luck!
2007-01-08 04:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a peculiar situation. Why don't you ask him? Secondly if he persists and does not devote much time with you then I think there is no need being Friends with him and leave him. In case you are his best Friend and love him to the extant that you try to make him overcome this habit. Because only true friends tell the truth to each other and help him/her out of the situation. Before leaving him I wish you make an effort as you will credit yourself in helping some one in need.
2007-01-08 03:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
because he's re-wired his brain chemistry to the point that he's afraid he can't.
tell him your concerns straight out. you do NOT want to be in a relatinonship with a user who doesn't want to quit, trust me. it's a battle. he's got to figure out his issues before he can be in a healthy relationship with you. if he's serious about quitting, be very supportive, but try your best not to re-inforce his behavior.
example: if you go over, and he's drunk or high, then tell him you don't feel you can connect with him very well while he's in that state and GO HOME.
2007-01-08 03:48:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hon, he is an alcholic and needs help. There is NO reason for you to live like this.
Get yourself to an alanon meeting asap. "They are in conjunction with AA
Please go, it will help you
2007-01-08 04:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes the high
2007-01-08 03:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he`s most likely an alcoholic/addict, get yourself some help alanon.
2007-01-08 04:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by wjk31092 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋