friendship is such a gift should'nt we maintain it?
2007-01-07 19:21:20 · 18 answers · asked by tina 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi, I've asked this question so many times to myself. Though I've tried to maintain contact, so many of my friends just moved on with their lives. They just believed that whatever was currently happening in their lives is the penultimate thing, and nothing else beyond that matters. Anyway one or two of them certainly are exceptions - lost contact for a while, but anyway came back and we just picked up from where we had parted. it has given a new srength to the relationship. I agree with you while you say that friendship is a great gift and we should maintain it. Thanks for asking the question!!
2007-01-07 19:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's a different phase of life. As unattached folks they could go out and do things but when you are married you are a couple and at some point the interests of the unattached are different from those who are attached. If you go to a bar the single one is going to be scoping out a potential mate or bedding partner and the married couple already have that. And it becomes them watching the unattached run around flirting with people while the one person in a couple has to fend off someone flirting with them without ticking their mate off.
Single folks can do whatever they want whenever they want. Couples need consensus and at some point one is going to be like hey you can't go out anymore with your single friends cuz you are married. It becomes a territory thing. And also at some point you might remind them of what they are beginning to miss.
Just think of it as single to couple is high school to college. A person in college wouldn't date a senior in high school. It's the food chain my friend. The social pecking order of things.
2007-01-08 05:36:59 · answer #2 · answered by Cybrocupid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that all people want to change. Circumstances force them to. I am married and have 2 children, so I can tell you my experience.
My wife is very forthcoming and likes to make friends and stays in touch with them, all of them. Earlier, when we had only 1 child, 3 years ago, the frequency of calling friends was mcuh much more. However, one of her friends would not call her so often and she used to complain to her that why she can't call. For which that freind used to tell that since she has got 2nd child she doesn't know how time passes as she is busy most of the times for household works being a housewife.
My wife used to think differently. Now, since we have our 2nd child, and because her whole time is occupied by the children and other household works, she remebers that friend the most and says she was right.
Moral: With passage of time your priorities, requirements and time management changes, whether you like/want it or not.
2007-01-08 05:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by GS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well after a person gets married they feel that their partner is their reasponsibility and tend to forget all their other responsibilities such as friendship its a big mistake on their part you just need to remind them their is still such a thing as a friendship and even though they might think their partner is all the friends they'll ever need they are sooooooooooo wrong
2007-01-08 03:31:30 · answer #4 · answered by angelic m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you get married you have a whole new life and you can still keep in touch but you can't do alot of the things that you did before because your priorities change.
2007-01-08 03:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I would Get Married I would Devote my Whole Life And Time To My Wife Forever, that's why He doesn't keep in Touch, I'm sorry but to him Your not the most important thing in his life SHE IS that reminds me, I will do the same thing thanks for the Heads up! I'm not married yet and I still don't keep in touch as I used to... hmm something to think about
2007-01-08 03:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by theurbsoweit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the thing is when you get married it means you are accepting a new and different life with another person and especially in the first year or so you need to adjust and get to know your new life and person you married and cant spend all your spare time with your friends anymore because your spouse needs some of that time or it wont be a marriage.
2007-01-08 03:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by evie 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Friend who change after they get married are not true friends so don't bother yourself about such people!!!!!
2007-01-08 10:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A spouse is someone who stands by his or her partner through all the troubles he or she would not have had, if he or she had stayed single. So it is trouble keeping people out of reach of their friends after marriage.
2007-01-08 03:47:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life happens
2007-01-08 03:23:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋