I have been with this really nice girl for awhile now and we both decided we are ready for sex. I didnt think I would have any trouble, but everytime we get ready for sex and everything, after foreplay and all that, I cant get an erection. I just dont get it. It's really frusturating. So needless to say, I still havent had sex and I have til this weekend to figure this out lol. Its happened 3 or 4 times now. I am totally comfortable with her and turned on by her, it just doesnt happen. It's really frusturating and it might just be a mental thing im having? Any help would be greatly appreciated, thank you so much in advance.
2007-01-07 19:21:18 · 11 answers · asked by magicfeet99 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Without question this is a phsycological block you're having. There would be greater cause for concern if you could not get erect at all, then we would lean more towards a physical malfuntion.
You are probably now stressing yourself out and that is not going to help your erection issue. You need to find a way to relax I know you stated you are comfortable with her. Some of the stress maybe eleviated if you have her feel the erection while you to are foreplaying that way you can clear your mind; knowing that she does know it's possible for you to get it up. Try having her perform oral sex prior to penetration.
Lastly just relax this a common problem some men have when they are more into a female and not just lusting after her sexually.
2007-01-07 19:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by rdtubbins 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It may be a subconscious fear or discomfort regarding your self-confidence or comfort levels in sexual situations. You could be used completely to being alone and doing your own thing. Then, when you're with someone else, that condition of yourself-and-yourself is absent, and your body just doesnt respond in the same way.
But im not a doctor in this, just something I came up with after hearing a ton of different things LOL.
2007-01-07 20:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're thinking about it too much. It's all mental and completely normal. You're just putting too much pressure on yourself. When you get to the point where you don't care whether you have an erection or not, you'll get one. Relax and forget about it.
2007-01-07 19:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is because you are used to measterbating a lot. Stop masterbation for a very long period of time and then try having sex with your girl. I think you'll probably get erected.
Does that help?
2007-01-07 19:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by Amr R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your relax when you mastubating but when it comes to having sex with someone you obviously dont feel comfortable & embarrssed! Nothing wrong with it, u just need 2chill out more dude!
2007-01-07 19:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it most likly is a mental thing. try not to think about it even though this is very hard dont center yourself on thinking about getting one. relax and have fun and things will happen.
2007-01-07 19:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by emt7404 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax. have a few drinks. more foreplay but without the focus on it.
2007-01-07 19:26:09 · answer #7 · answered by Sleepyguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to calm down a bit. relax...it wont happen if you dont feel comfortable.
2007-01-07 19:23:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only 3 things i can think of
1....you drink too much
2....your still in love with someone else
3....you have a medical condition
hope one of these help :)
2007-01-07 19:29:40 · answer #9 · answered by jstr12001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be calm and relax. get away from the "must have sex" hat and carry on.
2007-01-07 19:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by zodiaccyber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋