We've been 2-gether 4 years, and we love eachother deeply, but there is this problem that keeps revealing itself. When its confronted we work through it and resolve it. But it does'nt get resolved after all it just keeps coming up. My boyfriend has this thing about calling the sex-date lines, when i confront him he lies about it (not his usual way) When unexpectely I see it in a bill sent to our address, Once again I have to deal with this issue, will he stay faithful to me, Or is this a red flag saying this man is on his way out the door on to the next one? His excuse is I wouldnt be wanting to check other women if U did'nt get in those moods,(my pms monthly mood)What Ever??????
2007-01-07 19:03:58 · 8 answers · asked by rhyme2_333 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to show this boy to the door and find yourself a man. from what you are saying he is just looking for excuses to mess around and that is a habit that dosen't stop easily. if he is blaming it all on you it shows a lacl of maturity on his part and a bigger lack of commitment. don't put up with it and definately don't wait around to see if the next time will be the last. make it the last time.
Tough choices but easier than living with a lie.
2007-01-07 19:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by nyxcat1999 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...why do you even ask this? he's calling for sex outside of your relationship... it sounds like he's either tired of you, or trying to get everything the wrong way. I'd say either confront him about it and he gives it up for good, or you leave him, because I doubt he'll stay faithful, if he isn't cheating already. I just, wouldn't trust a guy like that. He couldn't love you if he was calling those lines.
2007-01-07 19:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by High On Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he may have problems with self control. I would be more worried about the fact that he says he calls those sex-date lines because of your mood. that's just bs. lame excuse. I would find someone who loves all of your personality even the pms or whatever. I know it can be difficult to put up with but that's just not our faults.
2007-01-07 19:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by ginger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts really Bad. Ive had the same problem with my spouse, besides his physical and verbal abuse. And being threatened if i leave him. Leave him before it escalates and only gets worse. When I did stand up for myself and children, it backfired on me. I let him get the best of me , at a 100 lbs. and 5 ft. 3 I finally let him have it. A 200lb. man, but my kids ended up suffering. Because I was incarcerated for 2 weeks, because i allowed him to get away with murder so to speak.. By putting up with his ridicule, humiliation, as well as mental and physical abuse.
2007-01-07 19:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by CARAMIA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he has phone sex with other women doesnt mean he is going to cheat on you.But in my opinion that is cheating enough for me.Maybe he needs counseling because he might have a sex addiction wich can become serious.please try to talk to him about counseling.And I bet you are a beautiful girl.If you guys have been togethjer for 4 years and You told him this bothers you,but he hasnt stopped you should reconsider your relationship.You deserve to be heard and respected.But first find out if he has a sex addiction because he cant controll that on his own.
2007-01-07 19:12:17 · answer #5 · answered by jade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it could be possible that he's cheating on you. so don' be blind to it if he is. but it very well might be just some kinky thing he likes. if it bothers you, the best thing you can do is join him. tell him to call you the next time he feels the urge. maybe even surprise him and call him. it may or may not work. maybe it will even add a little spice to your relationship that you might really be happy with. Good Luck.
2007-01-07 19:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by califniadrmn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if he will, but I'm getting sick of people being so focused on sex, lust and crap like that. Sure everyone wants a relationship, but isn't there more to life than that? Maybe you should tell him that. Gosh, most people like to work on their career and building a home and life (with the sex ont he side).
2007-01-07 19:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
definitely not. girl, sorry to say this but it seems he is not contented with you.
wake up, girl!
2007-01-07 19:10:56 · answer #8 · answered by kolinetongue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋