If you go to a support group and someone from the group approaches you about an "outside" income opportunity!

Question

I find it offensive that someone would try to promote a new product that they supposedly use themselves and also try to recruit me to sell the product when support groups are supposed to be a "safe" place to go without fear of being solicited in such a way. What would be a proper response in dealing with such a person without causing hard feelings since I have no desire to try the product or become a salesperson?

Answer 1

I think it's too bad but I've seen this happen too. I would just tell the person that I came to the group for a reason (support or understanding) and although I appreciate them thinking of me for this "amazing opportunity" (try not to sound sarcastic there!) I'm just not at a point in my life where i'm looking for anything of that nature. This works when people hit on you in a group as well.

I think they do this because they have issues being comfortable with people and if you are in the same group then you have enough in common that they will ask.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Say to them what you just said here. You are totally correct. Just repeat, "I find it offensive that someone would try to promote a new product that they supposedly use themselves and also try to recruit me to sell the product when support groups are supposed to be a "safe" place to go without fear of being solicited in such a way." Then maybe stare at them so they know you are serious.

Answer 3

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So tell the person no and start enjoying your life now instead of being lead on and having to worry what they think. Good Luck!