when i hear someone shouting i feel scared?even if itsnt on me?

Answer 1

That's VERY common!! Especially now with terrorism and everyone seems hateful lately. When you hear shouting it could be anything, but it feels bad. You associate it with pain. Even if it was happy shouting you still are sensitive to loud noise and confusion. Outbursts are upsetting.

Answer 2

As an 8 year old, I would wake to hear my parents shouting at each other.
Broken glass plates, you know, the standard stuff.
Later in life, I found myself retreating from potential confrontations.

It helped to imagine the other person as a child, and me trying to act as the adult.
It was only later that I learned how to express anger in a non-threatening way.

It helped to see that:

someone was angered
they are responsible for their feelings
I did not CAUSE their feelings.



Hard.

Answer 3

I feel the same way; but it's because of memories of all the physical and verbal abuse I witnessed when I was a kid. I'm an adult now, but I still freeze in fear when I hear shouting going on.

Answer 4

I was raised in a family of peacekeepers, and no one really yelled, we didn't fight much, and if we got too loud, we were told to take it out back....out side!

When I hear someone shouts, or fighting, it startles me, then I tell myself, it's their problem, not mine, and they are not mad at me.

I am extremely jumpy, my hubby has to knock when he comes home, he's quiet, and when we were first married and he entered the kitchen I was washing the butcher knife!
oh - dear/ no blood, but he strated making noised hello, i'm coming in the house, hello ... can you hear me?
kinda cute and sad, and funny.

Some of us just aren't used to yelling is what i'm trying to say.
and it's just not our norm.
and why should it be?

Answer 5

That's normal, I feel the same way. We're probably not used to it.

Answer 6

thats alright 2 feel scared as long as they don't touch you

Answer 7

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