My husband is now giving extra care to his children and relatives forgetting me. Even when we are sleeping he gives me his back. Even if i talk something good he is always laughing at. At times I think he talks behind my back with his young brother whom I am staying with during holidays. Money wise. he does what he feels like. He can give his children and his young brother what ever the money they demand without my concern. I am now confused I don't know what to do. Help me before i do something terrible.
2007-01-07 18:25:30 · 11 answers · asked by madafinya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi, First I would like to say that once you all became a family that you do have a say in how the children are raised while in your home. You are NOT hired live in help. My friend did this: she was so pleasant to everyone and then she took herself out, went for lunch, shopped for herself, paid attention to just herself all day then came home, if your being ignored then try to act really busy and happy with yourself, if he keeps being a jerk, tell him you now see why wife no 1 left, and to watch your *** heading out the door also. good luck
2007-01-07 19:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well sweetheart I think you have a very tender caring soul and I know you care about him very much and all I can say to help you may not be the best advise but im sure you know people do change with time and growing older is a terrible thing our body's and mind's do change over time and alot of men don't remember why they fell in love and alot only fall in love for sexual reason's men are such pig's arn't they so maybe you could try working out more often if you even have a weight problem I dont know it is just a suggestion or maybe you need to get yourself dolled up in some other way im sure you very pretty and if that is not helping you mite want to see a marraige counsolor or may be you need to get more involved with what he is doing with the kid's ,family,etc and dont worry about what you think he is saying to his brother it mite be something good or then maybe even about what you like in bed now go be a women and turn on your charm you know you can you have before you have not lost it you mite have just misplaced it
2007-01-08 03:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by Randall63 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His children will (and should!) always come first before you. This is the problem that always occurs when you marry someone with prior children. You are not their mother and therefore (rightfully) have no say in how he parents them. He is going to feel guilty about not providing his children the intact home they should have had and will always try to make up for it by spoiling them. Just keep your mouth shut, ignore it and be happy with what you have. Show him love, and he will most likely return it. Go to bed naked, and I guarantee you he will not give you his back! ;)
2007-01-08 02:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by dottidal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you get married on the first place. You have your own children and you can take care of yourself. Its always a mistake to marry a divorce they never let go their past marriage and may be he started comparing you with his ex and he think she is million times better than you.
Do something before you go under depression
2007-01-08 03:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by auntsid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you truly should keep yourself busy maybe you will not notice him so much, that is great he is giving extra care to the children try to show your approval
that might help your relationship
Good luck
2007-01-08 02:56:39 · answer #5 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and you alone will know how much you can stand..I don't know here what the circumstances are..Maybe you are just being jealous, or maybe he just wants someone to take care if his kids..
2007-01-08 02:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he does with him money what he wants then you do the same and see how fast he says something.
2007-01-08 02:36:06 · answer #7 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check ur attitude; you might have done something to make him act like what he is doing to u. and from there u can solve ur problem with him.
2007-01-08 02:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i sensed that he is not happy with your relationship anymore, you better talk with him and settle everything.
pray a lot, girl.
2007-01-08 03:23:52 · answer #9 · answered by kolinetongue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop trying
maybe this is a game to him-this marraige
leave him ultimately
does he talk to you at all?
2007-01-08 02:28:55 · answer #10 · answered by mintman16 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋