I was wondering what the public opinion is on people who perfer never to get married?

Question

i don't want to get married, because i have a fear of divorce and not being able to leave the marriage because of finacial problems. i've seen it happen and since 50% (i believe) of all marriages go down the drain i would not like to get married. If you feel the same or have an opinion on this matter i would like to hear it.

Answer 1

I'm pretty sure it's more than 50%, but anyway... I don't want to get married... EVER! That's just my personality. It's not because I fear divorce or anything. Hell, the only good thing about marriage is the financial benefits! However, I just can't settle down into the whole happy hetero lifestyle crap. First off, I'm not hetero; I'm omni, sooo I've got lots of options! lol

Why should I get married when not everyone is even ALLOWED to be? That's just pure BS. Until everyone has the right to get married AND be recognized everywhere, then I refuse to partake in the suicide pact known as wedlock.

Answer 2

Well, part of getting married is the risk. I think that you are going to end up regretting that you didn't get married. Your point of view might even change when you meet the person you fall in love with. Marriage is a team effort and with the view point you have well, I can see why you wouldn't get married. No one wants their marriage to go bad, normal people anyway, and if it doesn't work out well you might not have been in love with the person as much as you thought. You have to wait to get married. You have to trust the person 100%. Most people now a days are jumping into it and they aren't getting to know the person they are with well enough first. Or they are just to dang lazy to work it out. So if you are a strong person you should be able to get thought anything, even marriage, financial problems and all, if you are with the right person. It's all about communication. If you talk with your spouse about everything things should work out fine most of the time. Nothing can be perfect, just keep that in mind.

Answer 3

I don't give a damn what people think i live my life the way i feel is right. I was married when i was 21 separated when i was 25 and believe me if i knew marriage life is that bad i would never have gotten married. If you feel that marriage is not your thing then don't get married.

Be happy with your own decision

Answer 4

Sounds like a bad reason to not be responsible. If you plan on staying single that is one thing but I think it is sad when people just play house and live together. Been there done that, rather be single.

It is just a way to have your cake and eat it to. A way to have an escape route so you never have to really commit. I look down on the man when I see it happening. I feel the woman is being used, and taken advantage of.

If your over 40 and never married I wonder if you are gay or have some really odd fetish. Lots of foot and shoe guys never seem to marry. Odd how that works.

Right or wrong it is just how my mind works.

Answer 5

One yr is honestly the natural. Plus getting married after 25 has a miles decrease divorce cost than 18-23. I feel individuals are as a substitute stunned while it kind of feels you do not know every different that good. For instance the individuals which were relationship two-four months and get engaged. Sure there are examples of ways that "labored for us" however more commonly that does not paintings. You get so into the marriage ceremony making plans afterwards, that you just don't seem to be nonetheless getting to grasp every different. Most of the ones "not up to five months" til engagements get divorced. It additionally depends upon how dependable you're. There are many books available in the market on amazon on questions you will have to ask earlier than you get married. (1001, one zero one, and seven are a couple of I've obvious--so I bet if you're ADD you'll have fewer questions you ask). If you're flighty and have not even controlled to pick a predominant but in tuition, nor even spoke back what you wish to do while you develop up--of path it is troubling. If you're the sort who can speak truthfully approximately disorders, recognise your flaws and his flaws, admire the themes you ought to have mentioned earlier to marriage (youngsters, wherein you wish to reside, truthfully mentioned cash, department of work/gender roles in a courting) then you're the sort that every body is aware of is familiar with the seriousness of relationships and the colossal step you're making. Can you title why you like him? Is it this "we knew in the beginning sight" or are you able to title characteristics that he has? Can you reply "Why do you like him?" But the peers and loved ones discover it extra horrifying if they do not suppose they recognise the partner. If they have simplest met him one million or two, then they're involved he would possibly not deal with you correct. What's the frenzy? If he's excellent after three weeks, he's going to be simply as excellent in eight months. And eight months has given you time to have a controversy and spot the way you combat. If you might have on no account had a combat/war of words, you don't seem to be competent to get married. So many brides in these days you'll simply inform are keen to be BRIDES. They wish a marriage ceremony. They wish a colossal get together and items and a fluffy get dressed. But undoubtedly not anything they are saying regards the wedding, the existence, the person they're marrying. A yr is honestly flawlessly usual. Especially if the two of you're each mature adequate to admire that you just wish to spend the relaxation of your existence in combination--thick and skinny--and you realize what that implies. And sure age concerns. If you had been 18 and had been definite he was once the only, I'd let you know that you just don't seem to be definite of whatever at 18. All you're definite of is that you do not wish to reside together with your dad and mom ever once more. You may also marry him BECAUSE your dad and mom disagree. Your mind are not able to even recognise what "perpetually" method b/c you are not able to approach your possess mortality. But at 25 or 26 while you get married, you're generally an grownup adequate to grasp what perpetually method and be competent to pledge to any person constancy of middle and frame. I do not feel someone will say you don't seem to be competent.

Answer 6

I wish I would have seen the light like you! My highschool sweetheart of 15 years left me because marriage wasnt fun any more. Now raising two boys 7 & 9 so that thier mom can PARTY!
Just dont marry the first girl you kiss like I did! good luck

Answer 7

I think it's perfectly okay to not want to get married, but I think you need to reassess your reasons. Just because many marriages end in divorce does not mean yours will. If you find someone you love and want to spend the rest of your life with, you will regret it if you let fear make you decide not to do so.

Answer 8

in my case, i prefer not to marry bec i want my total independence - time and money. and i want to be free from the stress of marriage. Call me selfish, but yes, I prefer not to marry and be alone with pets - i love dogs. I think dogs are more loyal to u than any person and is always at ur beck and call.

I prefer not to be married bec you will have to live with the terms of the man sometimes.. its just so irritating. I mean, if i prefer to lie down in bed all sunday and this husband wants to do soemthing else, then i will have to do it with him, or cook for him when i dont even feel like doing it.

i dont know what majority of the ppl would say about ppl who prefer not to marry. i think it is essential to be sexually involve (bf-gf relationship), live apart from each other - keep each other company once in a while, have someone to talk to, watch movies with, etc. but it is not necessary to be married and be tied up doing things u dont feel like doing, but have to do it bec u r married....

Answer 9

I think if you do not want to get married you should not..you know yourself better than anyone...but you should not be getting the privileges of marriage without a contract either...

Answer 10

I say if you don't want to get married, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. In fact, you will probably be better off. Whether or not you are married and have children, you will still have to provide for them. If you're not planning on having children, I definitely would not get married unless you are ready to give up your freedom.