How do a gay guy change himself into a straight (normal) guy?

Question

I'm gay and i realised that it was very difficult to change myself as a normal person. Can you help me?

Answer 1

it does not mean you are not normal,when you are gay.stay the way you are,and you will be happy

Answer 2

Don't even try you will not succeed,you were born Gay and hey we aren't all happy with the cards were dealt. Being Gay doesn't mean you re not normal what is normal .You be you, get out more .You haven't really given us a lot to go on is it a feeling you had on a bad day ? do you feel depressed if so why? do you have friends you can turn to?.How old are you?.If you re young then I can understand you probably are under peer pressure but without knowing anything about why you asked the question I could go on all night and still not be able to help

Answer 3

first take out your brain,then change all your genetic programming, change everything you are and lead an unfullfilling life while secretly wanting something else. Be miserable and in denial, and hide back in the closet. Why just because you are gay are you not normal? Just because a book says homosexuality is a sin do you believe it? Do you believe in the imaginary person that lives up in the sky that nobody has ever seen? or do you believe in what your body and mind tell you? Nobody on this planet can tell you what is normal! Why would you want to be something you are not? If you are gay then you are gay!If you are straight.... i wouldn't dream of telling straights they aren't normal,because nobody knows!! The ancient Greeks thought it was ok.

Answer 4

If becoming a heterosexual is the only way that you think you can feel "normal," I would say your odds are slim.

Every major medical and mental health organization (including the American Psychological Association, the American Psychiatric Association, the American Medical Association, and the American Academy of Pediatrics) has affirmed for decades that homosexuality is not a disease, disorder, or disturbance, and therefore it cannot be cured. They consider it a natural variation of the human sexual response.

Although there are therapists on the fringe who claim that sexual orientation can be changed, their evidence is highly questionable and their findings have never been deemed publishable by any reputable scientific journal. In fact, ethical requirements mandate that so-called "reparative" or "sexual conversion" therapists inform the client beforehand that their success in this regard has been limited.

The other avenue you might consider would be some kind of "transformational ministry," or ex-gay organization. These people purport that accepting Christ into their lives has allowed them to become heterosexual, marry a woman, and have children. But aside from these testimonials, there is no evidence that such programs deliver on their promises.

The whole ex-gay movement is perpetuated on the false assumption that homosexuality is a disease. Never mind that every mainstream medical organization (and don't they define diseases?) says that it isn't. These believers treat it like one anyway. Although they would claim to help relieve clients of the suffering allegedly caused by homosexuality, they fail to recognize that it is this very perception of gay people as diseased (or sick, sinful, unworthy, corrupt, perverted, inferior, disgusting, shameful, unacceptable - take your pick) that is the direct cause of their suffering.

There is growing evidence that a homosexual orientation is a function of one's biology. In this regard, ex-gay groups impose an impossible condition of worth: that you must become something you are not.

What happens next is that, in order to continue receiving the acceptance and support of the group, you will pretend to become something you are not. But people can be very good at pretending, so good they can even fool themselves. Perhaps you will go so far as to convince yourself that you really do love this woman and you will marry her. And perhaps you will, and perhaps you will have children, and perhaps you will grow old and become grandparents together.

Does this mean you will have become straight? Not by a longshot. You would always thirst for sex with another man, and you would always have to repress this desire (except when you have sex with your wife and you need someone else to think about to sustain an erection). While the love you might feel for your would likely be friendly and amiable, the romance would certainly be forced.

And the very worst part is that you'd have to deal with the nagging realization your life is a lie. My guess is that something would have to give eventually.

The whole ex-gay business is a sham. The case of Rev. Ted Haggard should be a lesson for us all as to how effective it is to pray for Jesus to take the gay away. He was one of the top 10 evangelical preachers in the United States, and founded a multimillion dollar megachurch that "saved" thousands of souls. If Jesus wouldn't help him, an A-list celebrity of religion in this country, what help is there for everyday "sinners" like you and I?

Your best bet, my friend, would be to find a gay-affirmative psychotherapist who is competent and sensitive with regard to issues of sexual orientation and self-acceptance to help you work through your issues.

Have no fear; you ARE normal.

Answer 5

Its my feeling that in the world we live in today "normal" doesn't really exist as such. I say normal is what's right for you and for what you feel comfortable with or who you are.

I'm afraid being gay isn't a choice so unless you try and put it to aside and live a straight life I don't know what else you can do. The only thing is we hear all to often about people who do this and marry etc and then leave their wives and they can't live with it anymore.

Just think carefully what you decide to do.

Answer 6

You are perfectly normal. An there's is nothing wrong with being gay. I realized I was asexual and didn't tell people because I thought I was a weird freak. 2 years later I came out and realized pretending I was a "normal heterosexual" only hurt myself. YOU have the right to love whomever you want and your born your sexual orientation. I love you just the way you are, GAY. Remember, "sexuality doesn't hurt people, repressing it does!"

Answer 7

I don't think you can become "normal"?!But hey,since when gay peeps r not normal?!I'm one of them and if u really gay u must know tht you can't change that...so don't try cause you'll make your life difficult.Make peace with yourself and then you'll be fine.
Iwish you best of luck...life it's not easy no matter if you are straight or gay.

Answer 8

In my opinion, if you are gay then you are gay. In all likelihood you will be happiest if you can simply embrace your sexuality and not try to be something you're not. However, I do think it is possible for a gay/lesbian to have a heterosexual relationship if they leave themselves open to the possibility that true love does not have to be found within a specific gender. Yeah, it sounds a lot like "Chasing Amy", but I think that movie has a lot of truth.

I think the biggest disservice you can do to yourself and those you love is to try and be something you're not. And this applies whether you're talking about sexuality, religion, or something else.

Answer 9

But you are normal. You're probably more normal that alot of straight people. Please live your life & be happy. I have a very good friend who's 56 & he's never come out except to me & 1 other person & I see how this wonderful man will never enjoy the happiness that he really deserves. I feel so sad for him. Don't let that happen to you

Answer 10

Don't try to change yourself to straight; it will just stress you out, won't work, and will end up with you using a girl because you want to be "normal." Love yourself for being gay, it's how you'll be your entire life. As long as you accept yourself, there will be nothing "abnormal" about you; only the bigots will think so.

Answer 11

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