Is it normal to loose your sex drive after having a baby??

Question

My son is 7 1/2 months old and for the past month and a half my sex drive is 0, but before that i wanted sex 24/7 is this normal? I'm not stressed about the baby waking or anything, i just find it strange before I couldn't get enough now I don't want any, and thats bad for my boyfriend :(

Answer 1

Yes, I've studied psychology and I've heard from other psychologists and from all that.. I remember that a woman WILL always lose her sex drive after birthing a baby. Usually this lasts for the first 4 months but because it is based on your hormone balance it could all depend upon each individual woman. It has almost been 8 months for you but you say that you had a high sex drive before.. .this makes me want to tell you to ask your doctor if you need to balance your hormones. There are things that you can do to get your sex drive back! Not to worry okay? Don't worry because that brings stress and sometimes even guilt.. these things are bad for the female sex drive because we are more brain than body. I would ask your nurse on the phone about this and go in to see the doctor that helped you with your pregnancy about this. Tell him that you were told that at first it was normal.. and then tell him about your high sex drive previously. I also have a high libido, in fact I have an overactive one.. according to my gyno. So I know it is sometimes embarrassing to talk about things like this... but honey it is worth it!! Kiss your baby and kiss your boyfriend.. tell him that it is hormones and that you can get help and no matter what don't worry!!!
xoxo

Answer 2

honey it's normal. especially if you breastfeed. i was/am the same way. my daughter is now 10 months old and i am rarely, if ever in the mood. before the baby and through most ofthe pregnancy i couldn't enough sex. after the baby for me it was just waiting to heal. but as time wnet by i wasn't in the mood. of course now i have other problems causing this, but thats a different story.

i suggest maybe reading some erotic stories. or try having sex. i know there are times i'm not in the mood but once we get started i'm all for it and he just can't move fast eough for me.

if you're real concerned about it talk to a gyno. but it's ok, your body is still adjusting.

Answer 3

I know its easy to say don't worry but, don't!!
For the first 2 month after having my little boy I could barely think of anything else,but since then ....nothing... but now at 6 months things are starting to even out. And that's all it really is your body taking its time to come back to an even keel.
If your boyfriend has a problem with this, then point out that over 30% of men have a big libido shift after becoming a father!

Answer 4

yes it is normal to lose ur sex drive after having a baby, im a mother of three my oldest being 4 yrs old and he two youngest is 10 mths so i am kinda in your situation too. me n my fiance used to literally be rabbits even after our son was born but no we will be lucky if we even have sex once a month. dont worry it will come bak but i feel like im pushing him away since i dont give it as much even with the kids sleepin and all so im lookin for little things to spark it up a little that will maybe initiate some action. hope this helped some good luck gurl dont give up!

Answer 5

It is not uncommon for new moms to have problems "getting in the mood", but it is important to make time for your relationship as well as your new baby. The first few weeks or months may be difficult to squeeze in time for anything, let alone, time for lovemaking. And if you are not in the mood, it is even harder to create the time. There are many reasons new moms (or dads) lose interest in sex. Sometimes it is as simple as being tired or feeling unappreciated. If you think that your sexual drive is something to be concerned about, you should consult with a doctor. Sometimes a low sex drive can be hormone related or can be symptoms of postpartum depression.

You may need to be more creative to find time for sex and to get in the mood. Before having a baby it was easy to have spontaneous sex. But your sex life doesn't have to be over just because you have a new baby.

Here are some tips for having a great sex life after a new baby.
Communicate with your partner. For example, dad may want to initiate sex when baby is crying. Rather than getting angry or turned off by this, talk to your partner. Tell him how this makes you feel. Let him know that your role as a mother is important and that you are not choosing baby over him. Good communication is the number one factor in having a great sex life.
Spend time relaxing with your partner. It is hard to switch gears from mommy mode to lover. Take some time to relax before rushing into sex. Try listening to music you both like or taking a bath or shower together.
Erogenous areas may be more awkward after baby is born. If you are breastfeeding you may feel uncomfortable or embarrassed if you have a let down or milk ejection during foreplay or sex. Talk to your partner about how he feels about this. It doesn't have to be a big deal. You can help alleviate let downs by nursing or pumping before sex. Or if you are very sensitive about this, you can discuss with your partner other places that you enjoy being touched.
Try creative visualization. If you do not feel like having sex, spend some time relaxing and visualizing different sexual activities you enjoy. Fantasizing is a great way to get sexually aroused.
Schedule time for sex. Spontaneous sex is ideal but when dealing with a new baby, it is not always possible. Nap times are a great time for having sex. A common problem is feeling rushed for time. Try planning bedroom get-togethers during the start of a nap. .
Make time for sex, even if you don't feel like it. Waiting around till you feel like it may not work. Your partner may get frustrated because you had the "perfect opportunity" to fit in sex and it didn't happen. The longer you go without having sex, the less your desire will be. THE ACTUAL ACT OF HAVING SEX WILL HELP INCREASE YOUR SEX DRIVE.

Answer 6

Yes, it is normal and your sex drive will come back since you have gone through so many changes in your body and you need to adjust. Try to discuss with your boyfriend and try to go along with his need. Now you are parent and the baby is priority. I wish you the best New year and Happy New You 2007.

Answer 7

yes I've lost my Mojo my baby is 9 months old i try now to get in the mood start off slow and we are soon in the swing of things but yes its normal your body has been through alot we did cuddles then cuddles and kisses then a bit more each time but take your time don't rush it or end up treating it as a job just enjoy the closeness first and build in your own time! xx

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Answer 9

Dear yes just for about 5 months and it should come back your body is going through some changes after a baby your body is trying to get back like it was OK please be patient and do not rush it OK

Answer 10

Why is it bad for your boyfriend to not get sex whenever he wants? OMG, he is lucky you have even let him near you at all since you were 6 months pregnant. Your hormones have settled, and your body wants sleep, not sex. Tell him to grow up and be a man.