basically, I live in this apartment. and its shared. everybody else is living with each other fine. but there is this one roomate who thinks she owns the whole place. she is messy, inconsiderate and leaves her things everywhere. she doesnt know how to control her stuff! i understand how people get messy, but WOW. she is MESSY! and to top it off she talks crap about everybody behind their backs. no matter how nice you are to her. she'll find something to not like about you. and she complicates things to the MAX. she thinks that she can walk over each and every one of us. she'll offer you somehting and use it against you. for example. she'll ask you if you want to go to the market with her. and then when she's mad at you she'll use it against you saying that she's been so nice and takes you to so many places ugh. she also has this problem with her roomate and has started ignoring her. im not taking sides cuz im still living with them so i dont wanna cuase trouble. gosh, how i hate her!
2007-01-07 17:55:59 · 11 answers · asked by sweetpea2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the best way is just ignore her existence in ur house,whenever n whatever she asks u doing anything,u just turn ur deaf ears to her,don't do anything 4 her,sooner or later,she w'd get fed up of u n go off herself one day.so u got peace of mind then.good luck.
best wishes.
2007-01-07 18:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The options are like this: either you move out, or you make it very clear to her that her messiness is not acceptible by the rest of the household. Get together and have one of you guys do the talking. Don't all attack one person, let others be silent "agreers". If she starts getting defensive (she will, trust me) or tries to push it back as it's not her fault, make it very clear to her exacly what needs to be cleaned and not left behind. Some people simply have no concept. Make it clear that if she doesn't change the part about the mess she will be asked to leave.
As for bit***ness in the supermarket story, just don't go with her. You know what she's like. Don't talk to her at all if possible.
If she the main person on the lease, you probably don't have much leverage, other than moving out.
2007-01-07 18:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by Everybody's Favorite 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 18:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how you can put up with that ****. me personally, i love my space. my house is my home & my home is my haven. it would drive me to the point where i would try & get rid of her or i'd go myself though i probably would have said something to her first. have you tried to talk to her? though some people arent worth the stress. do you other house mates feel that way? talk to them? if you all feelthe same try N get rid of her n if she wont go then all fingdanother place together N leave her there with all the rent. "That's what happens whan your'e a *****!" is what i would say on the way out the door!!
2007-01-07 18:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by stevieglenwright 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure she's a bloody b*tch! well ignore her in every way,and also tell her how messy she is and if she doesn't do anything about it then comes the fun trow all her stuff out of the window every time she doesn't clean .but before you do that waring her first that that's what going to happen next time!!
2007-01-07 18:09:45 · answer #5 · answered by stella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a shared apartment? She pays for things above and beyond.
stop taking her financial favors and then you will have a basis for your complaints. until the rest of you start carrying your own weight in the apartment you will have to put up with extra nonsense from her. could you afford to kick her out tomorrow?
by pulling your own weight in the relationship you will be able to stand with her on equal ground and decide how much of her nonsense you want to listen to.
2007-01-07 18:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by sodajerk50 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's name is on the lease??? If hers is not..kick her *** out!!! All of you get together, and just make it unbearable for her to want to stay there. Don't let her call the shots or be the ruler. Be straight up with her...And if its her name on there and not yours, get out of there, before she drives you crazier. You come home to relax, NOT TO DEAL WITH ALL THIS STUPID , IMMATURE DRAMA MAMA CRAP!!!
2007-01-07 18:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by RAW AND GRIM \,,/ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's name is on the rental agreement? If she is not on there then ask her to move out because of the animosity she is creating! OR you and the other friend move with out her! Solved!
2007-01-07 18:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by LSD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
looks like you and your other roommates need to get together and have a talk with her
sit her down and lay things down on the line
give her a railing, and then a deadline to have her **** together by
if she goes over, is still bitchy, then give her the boot
2007-01-07 18:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by mintman16 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, if you can't take it anymore the best thing to do is move out... Because, its gonna get worse not better. Good Luck..
2007-01-07 18:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by Rain L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋