For 5 years and I love her. Is it time to pop the Question? I'm just not sure with living a Military life if it's a good Idea now. She has been pushing for it hard. The big thing is I've been to Iraq twice and it's possible in the next few months I'll go back. I want to make sure that if something happens they will be taken care of.
2007-01-07 17:46:32 · 9 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are SOO SWEET!!! I think you should sit your girlfriend down and tell her exactly as it is. Let her know that you're aware of her taking it to the final step. Tell her you want the same thing, because it's very clear in what you stated in your question. Then, also tell her about the danger and what you feel about it. I'm soo sure she will realize where you're coming for and respect and love you soo much more for it. You're a good man! Be safe and Good luck!
2007-01-07 17:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience, my hubby is deployed right now. I think it is something to really talk about. She knows what it is like to be separated from you for long periods of time, which is the hardest part. But on the other hand you do have a daughter, what do you want as a couple for her school? How much longer do you plan on being in? There is a lot of sacrifice in a military relationship. Would she feel comfortable being in a different country as her friends and family, while your deployed? And if i remember right the marines deploy for longer periods of time.
I am very happy in my relationship, and we both knew going into it all that there would be sacrifices. So I say do it when you both know your ready!! Your very sweet for you to have your girls best interest in mind! Good Luck and be Safe!
2007-01-07 18:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by Karen D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should marry her now, you love her anyway and you have a daughter together. 5 years is long enough to know you want to be with her. Like you said, when you're married they will be taken care of if something happened to you. What are you waiting for?
2007-01-07 17:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by Speck Schnuck 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say get married even if you remain stateside.
My son was in the Air Force. And he marrried real young so that his gf could join him on the base. When he passed away the Air Force was wonderful to her. She will be taken care of.
I you have a child, I would suggest marriage as a way of insuring your gf and child are well taken care of if something happens to you
BTW than you for giving your self for our country
2007-01-07 20:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well they won't be taken care of if your not married. The military gives benifits to Widows not to girlfriends.
2007-01-07 17:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, go for it. If I was your girl friend, I will cry when I read the last sentence you wrote. Your girl friend is very lucky to have you.
My ex is in military too, he is wonderful but his mission take him away from me :( before we can say anything to each other. I always regret about that)
2007-01-07 17:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to believe that you waited this long if you really love her. Are you sure you are not dragging your feet because you want some freedom to do as you please while you are overseas?
Marry her. Your daughter needs the security that only married parents can give her.
2007-01-07 18:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by lifesbeautifulmelody 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i say yes. marry the girl. i'm sure you might even be able to take her and your daughter wherever your stationed. you will probably see much more of them.
2007-01-07 17:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
MONEY
2007-01-07 18:08:05 · answer #9 · answered by Ed Clark 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋