I have felt this attraction for years now and have decided I am lesbian, but I have kids, can this be affective for them?
2007-01-07 17:35:22 · 13 answers · asked by venus7 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If it can be affective for them? No doubt. When my mother introduced me to her girlfriend, I was twelve years old. I was quite mature for my age and I accepted my mother's choice although I was feeling sorry about my father who did not take it so good. My major problem was with the neighbors -we were leaving in a small town at the time- and their gossiping.
2007-01-07 17:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by Alex 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have a very close friend who left her husband to be a lesbian, she also had 2 boys, she also followed her emotions and intuition and is now a very a happy woman....
At the end of the day she was always upfront and honest but also made allowances that she is going to go through an emotional rollercoster whilst going through the process....
Make your husband still feel like he is the man that you would be with if you were to remain straight the only thing that is different is that you would rather be with a woman...
I would recommend that if you haven't been with a woman do so.
I hope this helps....
2007-01-07 20:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by Realness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, so let me get this straight. You want to give up a 7 year marriage (which is gonna be wasted just to become a lesbian) and start all over? Well, if I were you, I would think about my children and the future. These questions will help you decide because I am not gonna decide for you: Will you regret about your decision? How will your children react to your decision? Will you ever feel the same? Will you get HIV and spread it? Think about these questions and make the right decision and hope for the best for your children if they become spoiled as in sad and miserable. And think about your husband.
2007-01-07 17:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by The Mermaid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If lesbian is really who you are than go for it!! Yeah it will suck for your husband, but you can't live the rest of your life with a guy when you really want to be with a girl. As for your kids I don't know how old they are but if their old enough they will understand if they love you and if they are very young and they don't know what's going on than have a talk with them when they get older. I know it sound selfish to brake off your marriage but you can't be living this lie. If you stay in the marriage your gonna live your life always wonder what if..... Follow your heart and you will be happy, just BE YOURSELF. I hope that helps you venus7.
2007-01-07 23:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by *Jenna* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why Not, It's Just About As Normal As Moms Good Old Apple Pie And Besides isn't This The Good Old American Way. By The way, Do You Think It Would Be Normal For Me To Shoot My Self In The Foot ????
2007-01-07 17:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by frnkadms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not 'normal', per se, but who can judge what normal is? It's not fair to you if you stay in a realationship that you are not happy in, though it may feel unfair for your husband, but if he really loves you, than he will want you to be happy. And your kids, even if they are young, will want you to be happy in life, as well. It's best to be open with them, when you choose the time to follow your heart rather than the desires and selfishness of others. Hopefully, you will be able to preserve a good relationship with your husband, as friends, and that will be the best thing you will ever do for your children.
You are obviously a wonderful mother for keeping your children's well-being before your own, but your family will prosper better if you are honest and happy.
2007-01-07 17:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by The Lady of Shallot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're genuinely not happy with your marriage regardless of your orientation you have to decide if you want to end it or keep it going.
I think that if you explain these things to your kids everything can turn out ok for them. Most people don't give kids enough credit, they're pretty sharp most of the time :).
Best of luck!
Cheers,
2007-01-07 17:54:04 · answer #7 · answered by Gene M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while u r a lesbian then i think it's unfair for u and for ur husband to stay together coz ur husband wants a woman who is very intersted in his sexuality and u being lesbian but still wants to be his wife i think it's unfair
about the kids,i dont think it's good idea to act straight all ur life infront of ur kids while u r a lesbian,if u r a lesbian and proud of it,ur kids will be proud of havin a lesbian mother sooner or later
good luck and welcome to our lesbian community :)
2007-01-07 17:40:36 · answer #8 · answered by Tara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the way it's not normal......but listen dear what ur heart telling just do that....don't care about other....means if u luv ur husband and u hv feeling sure u'll never ever think abt this.....but if u don't luv him better u should become coz it'll just destroy the relationship if one day in future ur husband will know and it'll break his heart and may be disappoint him too much and he will hate u...........better talk clearly and save him and his future don't try to hide anything...i'm sure if u'll tell him truth may be for a little while he'll angry with u or hate u but after some time he'll able to understand ur feeling and respect u
in simple word just listne ur heart ...what it will tell just follow that..
2007-01-07 17:42:05 · answer #9 · answered by (¯`·.sanzeev.·´¯) 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you certain you are "lesbian" or is it that you are "Bi" ?
Invite a woman over for a 3some with hubby and see if that
satisfies your desire for a woman....It could save your marriage.
2007-01-07 17:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋