says things about getting married and blah blah blah, but never refers to me. I mean we are still young and I don't want to get married for another 4 years. Still, whenever he talks about having his own place (he still "lives with his parents", but basically lives in my apartment! He is here 5 days out of the week) or getting married he refers to "I" instead of "we" and that hurts me. Is there a reason why he says it that way? Am i overreacting? Should I be worried? Does he not see himself with me for the rest of his life, like I see myself with him? I really don't want to bring it up with him, or else he'll think that I am trying to get married right now and that's not the case at all. Please if you have had or have a related experience fill me in on this situation, because is making me panic!
Thanks!!!
2007-01-07 17:34:07 · 5 answers · asked by Kiki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I think this might be in essence what he is saying, whether he has articulated it even to himself, or not. At the moment, marriage is not on his mind, whether it's marriage to you or to anyone else. I'm sure, he's looking forward to "sowing his wild oats", and is not very inclined to be settling down quite yet (even in his imagination). Be realistic, and don't get too involved with this guy. You are a stepping stone to him - no more, no less. Not every relationship needs to lead to marriage - as you get older, you will have had several relationships before you find the one you will want to spend your life with.
2007-01-07 17:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing you can do in a relationship is to hold back your feelings. If you never end up marrying him, at least your feelings are made known. Never put another persons feeling ahead of your own, especially when they have no problem of verbalizing what they want and need in front of you.
2007-01-08 01:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All it is is his subconscious saying that he isn't ready for marriage. He is not ready for the deep commitment that marriage brings and it is still an abstract concept in his mind. You are over-reacting, especially since you don't want to get married for 4 more years. Calm down.
2007-01-07 17:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men take time to decide about marriage than do girls.As he s already living with you ,you can talk to him frankly about marriage plans.But dont force him to take decisions.
2007-01-07 17:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he does not see you as marriage material for himself
2007-01-07 17:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by mikefirefightermedic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋