He makes more than I do. I told him that he still is obligated to do 50% of the housework and cooking because I work 40 hours just like he does. He thinks he should get something out of the "deal" or keep his extra money... but I told him whoever makes more pays more as we're both working 40 hours per week. I'm NOT a maid. Any comments?
2007-01-07 17:33:20 · 10 answers · asked by Betsy1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he sounds REALLY old fashioned. but it's good that you know this now. i wouldn't marry him right away because he seems kinda immature to think that all wives are supposed to do 100% of the work at home, even if they got a 9 to 5 too..screw that. it is fair to do the 50/50 thing if you both got a job, but if your not working and staying at the house all day (like me), it would be very thoughtful to clean up the house and do whatever needs to be done if he can't do it when he comes home. it makes living less stressful. trust me on that one. basically,just compromise.
2007-01-07 17:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by yung_boricua 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If both are working ,housework should be 50/50,no matter who earns more.But dear,doing your own housework doesn't make you a maid.
2007-01-08 01:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by ANU U 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's still in single mode, "MY money, Your chores..." He's looking for a deal. What he's telling you, in essence, is that he has no intention of maintaining the house. He is telling you he is superior and deserves for you to act as his maid.
2007-01-08 07:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hubby takes care of my living and I could spend all my salary to do whatever I please-- yes, I do most of the housework. But if I still have to chip in for our cost of living, I'd say he has to do half of the housework.
2007-01-08 01:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by Speck Schnuck 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Betsy run, he will always try to avoid doing chores or anything he does not like. A marriage is a partnership.
2007-01-08 03:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by chubbycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a bully. If he loves you as a person, he would have never said that to you. HE sounds so immature. Find another bf, cause this one is an a..hole!!
2007-01-08 01:41:38 · answer #6 · answered by jcsas_2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has a warped sense of what marriage is like. Doesn't sound like he is ready for it.
Marriage is of equals and compromise.
2007-01-08 01:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your right marriage is a partnership it's up to the couple to decide the split of responsibilities
2007-01-08 01:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by mikefirefightermedic 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's not ready or mature enough for marriage. That, or he's just a prick.
2007-01-08 01:36:23 · answer #9 · answered by okgogeo 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you really wanna marry the guy?
2007-01-08 01:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by Lord Of Lust 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋