i am 22 i have no children. my fiancee is 36 and has 2 children. we have been dating for 3 1/2years... and i was wondering if anyone thinks that me marying someone that much older will cause issues between us later. he acts and looks much younger for his age and we get along well, but given the divorce rate now adays ......will this only add to a potential problem with our relationship.?
2007-01-07 17:22:39 · 13 answers · asked by mrs. sanchez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not a problem.
2007-01-07 17:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and done that. You will always be the "wicked stepmother" once the honeymoon period wears off. He is old enough to have developed some habits that won't go away easily and you are young enough to need to experience some of the dating and other things in life that won't be any fun with a 36 year old hanging around.
I am 45 and would tell my own children the same- wait and have a little fun- don't get bogged down with a relationship until you are really ready (and it sounds like you're really not). Good luck..............
2007-01-08 01:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by daddysnurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to get married and be a step mom! Period!! Sure everyone says love would be enough.But it never is!!If this guy had not been married before or has no kids, it might be different.
Soon he would be treating you like one of his kids. Shudder!And you wouldn't like it,trust me! Bear in mind EVERYONE gets along well BEFORE the marriage.Just think, when you are 46 he would be 60 ... and so on and so forth! Then he would be possessive especially if you still look hot. Maybe he's possessive right now ,and jealous too,but you find all these flattering?You wouldn't think so later on.
Right now an older man seems so right because he knows how to push all the right buttons.And you are perfect arm candy to show of to the ex.Makes you feel good too!
Honestly, just enjoy yourself and not get tied down so soon. BTW what does your mum think?? If I were your mum I would say "No,no,no" but you wouldn't listen would you? Well go ahead, you've been warned!!
2007-01-08 12:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think 14 years is such a great big age difference to begin with; and as time goes by, the "difference" will grow smaller and less noticeable, not larger. There are some practical concerns - such as that his health might start declining before yours, or that his age might be a factor in the decision as to when the two of you might have kids (i.e., you might not be ready for another 10 years, while by that time he will be getting ready for retirement, and not wanting to plunge in head-on into parenthood again). As long as these issues are addressed and worked out - the age difference in itself is not a major factor.
P.S. I was 23 when I married my ex-husband, who was 39 at the time. Our divorce 4 years later had nothing to do with age. We still get along, and I have re-married since.
2007-01-08 01:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So let me get this straight, you were 18 and he was 32 when you started dating, sounds close to a pedophile to me. Besides, if he is attracted to younger women, you will fit the bill for a while, but soon enough you'll be 30 too and then you'll be too old for him, he'll dump you just like his first wife for a younger model. Besides aren't his children closer to your age than you are to his....gross.
2007-01-08 01:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by karl g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, dont listen to the rude answers! Listen, Love see's no age! If you love him and you're ready to live your life with him then go for it! If you wouldnt mind raising his kids and putting up with them, then thats fine! Just make sure that you're absolutely READY.This is a long term commitment you're getting into ...Think long and hard about if this is what you want.There's pros and cons to every relationship.If you can deal with them, more power to you! If he makes you happy then thats all that matters and nobody can tell you different. Good luck and best of wishes! :)
2007-01-08 01:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Loving My Babyboy ;) ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how old you are at a sertian age it all melds together besides if you love someone what is something like age to keep you apart?
2007-01-08 01:26:19 · answer #7 · answered by david s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not marry him
just remember what im writting it will not work
you young live it up you just think you want old sacks when your 47 remebering your last years as sex hun listen to me bigg bigg bigg mistake plus 2 kids that aint yours LMAO
2007-01-08 01:33:55 · answer #8 · answered by JamesC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This should be fine as long as you don't mind the responsibility
of raising his kids....Don't let him turn you into a maid/nanny....
But the age itself is should not be a problem...
2007-01-08 01:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is 12yrs older, but we are a lot older than you and your boyfriend
2007-01-08 02:05:02 · answer #10 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋