I am here in Singapore living quite a lonely life. I have two or three freinds that I hang out maybe once ina week or even less. I live with my girlfriend who's absolutely the love of my life. I study in a university. Though I dont like to go clubbing and hang around too often... I have the need to do so just because I do not want to be labelled as a person who does not. I want to have more friends ONLY because I DO NOT want to be labelled as a person who does not have many friends... These thoughts are undoubtedly KILLING me ... I wake up every morning depressed thinking about my terrible life..... IS MY LIFE really terrible? Are there more people like me but enjoying their life?... I cannot do anything... I am not at all motivated to study nor do anything........ I need an answer.. i need help... please anybody.... I never thought I'd actually be looking to the net for some help ..but in a desperate effort.. i'm doing so.....
2007-01-07 17:14:32 · 13 answers · asked by Nathan A 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i think that you're fine. but you yourself is making things harder, for yourself that it. it's totally normal to have a few friends, to not want to go clubbing, etc. just because you're not following the norm, doesnt mean that you're abnormal. just makes you an individual. don't worry and cheer up. shake off those worries and unhappy thoughts. don't depress yourself any further, if not you might need to seek professional help. good luck!
2007-01-07 17:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by lemonade_crave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand how you can be lonely if you are living with the love of your life!! You don't like clubbing? That's great!
My social circle is my husband and kids. Once in a while we go out to eat, to a school fuction or my daughters dance performances. We have aquaintances through these outings, not close friends.
I have one old friend that I talk to on the phone once or twice a year and my husbands high school buddy has us over for dinner a couple of times a year.
I'm 44 and just had the opportunity to graduate from college. No big social life there either. I had a girl from Pakistan live with me for a while and she thinks she has to have loads of friends too. Why? Do you really need to count your number of friends to know if life is worthwhile or not??
Wow, enjoy your girlfriend and concentrate on your study. Those will be more important in your life than how many people ring your phone all day!
2007-01-07 17:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've taken the first step, admitting that you have a problem. If you can remember that this is just the simple honest truth, and not dismiss it as just some transient feeling, then you can make a rational plan to work on it.
I once decided that I really had to have a girl friend and that I was going to talk to every girl that I came in contact with. I married the third one I met. To have friends, be a good friend, volunteer to help people, ask a priest or some orphanage or some thing for help for you by helping them. Be a tutor, drive an old person to the grocery. Help people in your building. feel free to email me.
2007-01-07 17:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by charlie at the lake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To summarize: you have a roof over your head, a girlfriend, and enough money. You have time to study. Comparatively, no, your life isn't bad, it sounds pretty good. The fact that you can't appreciate that sounds like you're depressed. Medication and talk therapy will probably help. Also, you need to work on being who you are and not caring what other people think, which sounds like self-esteem issues. But, your life is not really terrible, your viewpoint is!
2007-01-07 19:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think you just need to open up and make more friends since you do not want to be labelled as a person who do not have many friends. you need to be more active and start to get involved in more stuff. get to know friends of your 2 or 3 friends you hang out with or join some clubs which involves your hobbies. you need to be more positive about stuff and smile more and be happy, people will make friends with you! n you have the love of your life, your girlfriend whom i believe will definitely support you! so STOP being depress and start living your life, STUDY hard and do something about it.
2007-01-09 01:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by Ms K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your lifes not that bad your just in a depressed state of mind. Im im the same situation as you. You just need to get out more and get involved.
Life's all about taking chances.
Life's too short to be standing around waiting for what you want.
2007-01-07 17:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nathan you have to find who you are. That is what holding you back. Spend some time with your girl friend and ask her to spend more time with u because from what it sounds she makes u happy! You have a better life than me and I am only 15 years old! Dude you sound like a cool down to earth guy relax and take some time to understand yourself ! Find the true you!
Good Luck and Take Care!
2007-01-07 17:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of worrying about labels, try to be true to yourself. People will label you in some way, no matter what you do or who you are. Ignore that. It is a very difficult thing to do, but do ONLY whatever you feel is right for you.
2007-01-07 17:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anpadh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what be yourself . Do what feels right for you .No doubt you see other people with lots to do but you put your head into what's right for you .You have a great life ahead of you with out all the drama.So pick your head up high and keep going in that right direction.Yes its nice and sweet to socialize but to much will get you no where fast.Good Luck ,and Best wishes to you.
2007-01-07 17:26:50 · answer #9 · answered by danielle_aka_shorty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks such as you're having a typical social existence. truthfully ... couples who're married will circulate out to the flicks, or to a carrying experience and so on on the weekend and have kin watch the youngsters. another weekend or so grandparents (on my factor or my husband's factor) will watch the youngsters for some hours as a manner to get out. i actually do not see something distinctive with what you're doing. Your husband is the single with the challenge.
2016-10-30 07:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋