Orgasming during sex?

Question

okay i just posted a question about this and i have informed my husband several times that i can't orgasm easily...it's a well known fact. so well known that its basically just like "she cant come so whats the use in trying...i'll just get mine" hence what i mean by the selfishness. he always wants oral then intercourse then he comes. and he comes quickly too which i why stimulatin my clit while intercourse never works because he's done before i can even begin to get close....it seems hopeless...not to mention he hardley ever wants to do it anyway...i'm so frustrated.

Answer 1

Try not giving oral before intercourse, makes them last longer. Also, try stimulating -yourself- before intercourse. It's a fact that there are alot of women who have trouble orgasming, or don't orgasm at all. So tell him if he wants some he has to work for it.

Answer 2

I answered your other one too but you're more specific here & I think you're absolutely right!

If he's "going off" too fast why is he getting oral? There's a song for your husband, RELAX by frankie goes to hollywood http://www.digitaldreamdoor.com/pages/lyrics/relax.html.

He's being unreasonable, you deserve to have fun too! You should have married an Italian. They always want to do it (rumor has it that they are usually well endowed too). I still say he should be giving YOU oral. In fact, maybe you should withhold oral from him until he gives you an orgasm by whatever means necessary.

Try a vibrator and have him use it on you. I've heard good things about the pocket rocket. Or forget him all together use it on yourself. There's also the good old shower head (hand shower) or you can try clitoral stimulation by hand when he's not around to bother you. There's also a female orgasm machine called a sybian (expensive) that is sure to give you an orgasm http://www.sybian.com/sybianindex.htm. If either of you are Howard Stern listeners you are sure to be familiar with it.

Try ignoring him when he's done and just keep on with the clitoral stimulation until you're finished. Maybe he'll get going again and finish the job he started in the first place.

I hope you get it worked out, it's too bad your husband has taken on that attitude, I'm lucky mine didn't, he's actually at the opposite extreme (probably almost equally as irritating). Good luck!

Answer 3

You need to tell him what you want and hold him up to his end of the bargin. WHy are you giving him oral if he won't meet your needs? Tell him point blank that many women don't orgasm with intercourse and that you think you may be one of them so he will have to finish you off after he is done. You have to let him know that if he doesn't try to at least meet your needs that you won't be taking care of his needs via oral till he meets yours. Also have you considered masturbation before intercourse to almost the point of orgasm and then trying intercourse?

Answer 4

There are women out there that do take time to warm up and need a lot of forplay. I feel sorry for you as you are missing out in a great experience. As for your husband it is obvious he is not concerened about your needs during the sexual act, only his needs. He is also missing a great experince in pleasuring you. Nothing is more satisfying than both parties having an orgasim together, collapsing in each others arms and experiencing the great feeling of sexual exhaustion. Not sure how you can get your husband to please you, other than not giving any oral until he gives you some first.

Answer 5

Okay...so your husband is an a*s and should get slapped for not being considerate enough to take the time for you to climax! So... what's going on in your relationship? Sounds like there is more going on than just the lack of intimacy between the two of you during sex. You deserve better!

Answer 6

ever felt like you had to pee so badly your lower stomach started hurting and you are barely holding on and you cant focus on anything except how badly you need to pee? well thats how it feels and its a really uncomfortable feeling and very distracting. VERY distracting. what she needs to do is while she is peeing on her own she should stop in the middle of it for a few seconds, then pee again then stop. this exercise will make her more comfortable with the sensation. our g spot is right under our bladder and when we are turned on the g spot nerve swells up and pushed against the bladder so even if you dont actually need to pee you feel like you do anyways. so tell her to do that exercise. its almost orgasmic when a girl does it. good luck. and your awesome for doing that for her

Answer 7

Maybe you need to experiment a little. Tell your husband to lay off his needs and focus on yours. Tell him to caress your breasts or different areas of your body until you find something you like. Play games or do some research on yourself, use trial and error until you find something you like. Have you ever thought about stimulating yourself first then engaging in sexual activities? That way you'll be ready to go by the time he's just about done.

Answer 8

Looks like you need to make a trip to the toy store. He needs to give a lil to get a lil though. You or him can use the toy on you while you are doing oral or something to him. Instead of having " she can't come so why should I try " he needs to find a way to help or make you come.

Answer 9

I can certainly see why you are frustrated. It does not sound like he gives much credit to foreplay. Maybe you should buy a vibrator. Use it on yourself in front of him. Some men get really excited just watching thier partners get excited. If he does not want you to use it then I have a really good suggestion of where you can tell him to put it.

Answer 10

If I were you I would tell your husband to get his act together and start thinking more about your needs. If he doesnt want to try then tell him you will go and buy yourself a vibrator and do it yourself
Maybe when he sees how much fun you are having it may make him try a little harder - lets hope !!

Happy Climaxing !!!!