moving out or staying?

Question

ok i dnt wanna sound like a momas boy but i know i will
heres the deal im 19 and i still live whith my mom and step dad i help out i work full time and everything but since my mother and i arnt very happy with the way thing are going here, were planing on moving out 1 )i dont want to leave my mother alone we came to the US legaly and were basically just here for each other im a patient for Shriners Burn Hospital FYI.

i do have friend we do hang out but how should i do it with my mother PLEASE dont think shes a burden she has told me many times she doesnt mind being alone but shes really been the only one there for me and i dont wanna leave her i do want my own apartment but what shoudl I do

PS no BULLSHIT stating "oh maybe yall should go back to mexico blah blah blah."
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Answer 1

I say stay move out when you feel strong and ready! Your not ready you will know when your ready! I am 15 years old so I don't know what I really want!

Good Luck!

Answer 2

You are not a mama's boy. You are simply a responsible caring son. If you can actually afford two separate places, and you can have a roommate, then why not do that. just make them extremely close to each other It sounds like your mom has no intention of barging in on your privacy or your life! If money is the issue, maybe you could find a single rental unit that is laid out in such a way that privacy is enhanced. There are a lot of 2 master bedroom type houses and apartments.

Later, when you are comfortable with the idea, you will decide it's okay to move out on your own. But of course, parents do get older and need more, but that does not mean that you cannot each have your own space..

Answer 3

I'm a mexican american and know what you mean since some mexican families are close like mine is and I think there is a time in our life when we do have to go out and see the world on our own. Talk to your mom and tell her how you feel I know she'll understand because she loves you and only wants the best for you. It sounds like you getting burned is what brought you two closer and made her a little more over protective of you. It will be hard living on your own at first but some times we have to live our lives with out parents being around 24/7 . We have to face the fact that our parents aren't gonna be around forever then whats gonna happen to us? Let your mom know that she can come visit you any time and that she's always a part of your life no matter how near or far you are because the one bond you to have is the love for one another.

Answer 4

I don't think that a 19-yo still living with a parent is something so unusual. Or something bad, for that matter. I believe that you and your mother are in a situation where you need each other's support, at least for a while. So don't listen to anyone telling you you're a mama's boy. Chances are they are just jealous because they don't have a close relationship with their family members and wish they had. Find a place for you and your mom to move into, get settled, and then decide what your next step will be.

Answer 5

One thing you are going to have to consider in making this decision is how your mother would feel with you having female companions over? I can tell by the way you are talking you would never want to disrespect her feelings but I can also tell you would like some privacy.
The only thing I can think of is trying to find a duplex. This way she could have her own place and you have yours but they would be right there together. Hope this is some help.

Answer 6

Dont leave your mother alone.if you can have your own apartment you can take your mom along.She is lucky to have a son like you.God bless you.