I've never had an orgasm during intercourse...is there a way i can? and also is there a way i can get my husband to stop being so selfish in bed without being rude while telling him?
2007-01-07 16:57:51 · 9 answers · asked by imakulaff2 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Try telling him the truth.
Can you orgasm from masturbation? Oral sex?
Many women are anorgasmic from intercourse. You may have to use the above techniques.
Communication is the key. Tell your husband the truth. Explore the Internet on this subject. There's a ton of good info out there.
From Wikipedia...
While well-suited for effective stimulation of the penis, intercourse is much less effective at stimulating the clitoris, the seat of the female orgasm, owing to its size and location well outside of the vagina. Many women, up to 70 percent rarely or never achieve orgasm during intercourse without simultaneous direct stimulation of the clitoris with the fingers or a sexual implement. Most women do require such direct stimulation, and ignorance or disregard of this fact is seen as a common cause of female anorgasmia.
Anorgasmia is the lack of orgasm during otherwise pleasurable stimulation. It is much more common in women than men. The condition may be related to a psychological discomfort with or aversion to sexual pleasure, or to a basic lack of knowledge of what the woman finds physically pleasing and is likely to result in orgasm. A sense of shame, or the feeling that she "should" be able to climax can compound the problem, along with feelings of shame on the part of her partner, who may believe that he does not excite her sufficiently. Masturbation is one of the best ways for a woman to explore her body and discover what feels good for her. The absence of a partner can remove the sense of performance anxiety and allow the woman to relax and enjoy. Good communication and patience are essential in helping an anorgasmic woman achieve orgasm. Whether a woman considers anorgasmia a problem or not is highly individual, though many women find it very frustrating.
2007-01-07 17:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by Rickydotcom 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wow - okay this will be a long answer :o) For one - don't be afraid to tell him that he's beign selfish.Maybe not say it in such a rude way.But be like "I don't like how you tend to think of yourself in bed, and rarely of my needs" And if he persists. Stop having sex with him completely,until he gets the clue!If you ain't getting any,neither is he!Some woman cannot have a orgasm through intercourse,that true.Or maybe youve had one and not known it.It's very different from a clitoral orgasm. Not so intense,just very good feeling. You may notice if down there gets really really wet all teh sudden.
Also have you tried introducing sex toys into teh room?A littel pocket rocket vibrator is wonders in teh bedroom.Guys love it too. cause it's small enough wheere it's not intimidating.Or have your husband use foreplay before hand, or if he won't "tell him he'll have to wait" and while you play with yourself, make him wait! He'll be sitting there going,"what the @$#$" and want in on the action.Remind him, it's not all abotu himself during sex, it takes 2 to tango!
2007-01-07 20:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OFF some women do not orgasm via intercourse. You might be one of them. Things to try are the women on top or other positions where there is more friction on the clitoris. Have you tried rubbing your clit while having intercourse or using a penis ring with a clit device on it. If you are one of the women that doesn't orgasm with intercourse then tell your husband this so that he can finish you off manually or orally till you do orgasm. If you do not tell your husband how the heck is supposed to know what is going on or what to do?
2007-01-07 17:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to give you oral until you have an orgasm, that's the solution to both the orgasm and the selfish husband. You may also want to give him a book, he'll probably be into reading it, he obviously has no idea what you need.
2007-01-07 17:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by mommy333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem.
The first time I had an orgasm, was when I found my husband. I had serious relationships before but no love, I really guess it was the love for me.
But to answer you question,
I suggest you get on top and take control, that is after four play. Cause you know sometimes men think they know what their doing but really don't.
That's what worked for me.
2007-01-07 17:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by sweetnbitter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can u get yourself off or close before he starts ?
2007-01-07 17:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send me his email address. I will tell him so you won't have to.
2007-01-07 17:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by icunurse85 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get the right man and you've got it made
2007-01-07 17:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
buy a vibrator or tell him to go down.
2007-01-07 17:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by hctr_torres 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋