What to do with x-husband,last year he left me to go back to an x,-Two month later when I had the divorce filed and was happily moving on and dating ,moving away,he turned up begging,went to my male friends house begging him not to steal me,He slept out side my house,my boyfriends house,showed up everywhere I went,cried on all my family members shoulders,went around dirty like a hobo and when I refused him enough times he stabbed himself in the chest while handing me roses,The hospital put him in the mental for a few day's the spanish Dr. told me take him back he just loves you.He would often get on the ground and hold my leggs and beg,like when I was on a date,After six months of this crap I gave in because I new I couldn't have aa happy life with his death on my hands.I couldn't even stand to look at him and thru him out.How do I make him stop? I need to work,have a normal life The divorce has been final a long time.I want to enjoy being I love again,not looking over my shoulder.
2007-01-07 16:57:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The police say it's OK if he watches if he hasn't hurt me aand is only dangerous to himself.It's killing my personal life,robbing me of a life.I'm so mean and heartless to try to make him know there is no chance,I hate having to be mean,I just want freedom I want to go to bed but my dogs say he out there,HELP.
2007-01-07 17:01:01 · update #1
Oh you poor dear!!! You need YOUR life back. He needs some mental evaluation done on him. Go to the police and get another restraining order on him. I know for a fact that the longest one you can get is for only like 72 hours, but take it to court like i did and then they have to stay AWAY from you or then they are breaking a court order and could do possible jail time. Maybe if that happens they will get him some type of mental help in there. He has serious issues honey and even though they say he is not harmful to you they dont know that!!! What would happen if he were to see you kissing another man, from the sounds of it i think he would do bodily harm to himself and the other man and possibly YOU. Please be careful of him... He is not Stable.....good luck to you sweetie and try not to feel as if you are being cold , he is the one who left YOU!! Always remember that he did this to himself ,you did not do it......Stay as far away from him as you can okay!!! And once again Please, Please go to the court and be careful of him............May god be with you right now... God Bless YOU!!!
2007-01-07 17:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by littleEfan25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be rather unstable, I would talk to his doctor about this. Maybe he knows something you don't. Don't take him back because you feel guilty. It's just a way to control you. You are not being mean you are being normal and moving on. He's being irrational. If I were in this situation, I would get a restraining order and tell the police everything. I would also tell your lawyer what is going on too (if you haven't already). If that doesn't fix things, the only other option would be to move to a new town. I know that isn't fair for you, but maybe go away for a little while until he cools off. You need to do something about this though before he does something to you (or your dogs or family for that matter).
If things get really bad buy a pistol, learn to use it and get yourself a conceal carry permit if your /state and town allows them.
2007-01-07 17:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really shouldn't be worrying about being mean or hurting any feelings right now. You should be protecting yourself and those around you and to do that you will need some help. Restraining order first, personal visit to the local police department, visit with neighbors to instruct them to call police if they see him near your place when you aren't home and even when you are. This type of personality he has is harmful to him, yes, but also to you and it doesn't just go away. Until he finds someone else to do the same things to, there's you. Don't wait, get up and take care of business. You're a big girl now! Do what you have to!
2007-01-07 17:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 17:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have kids?? If you are single leave! Go out of state or to a different city and stay with family and start a new life. I do not think he is going to let you go and he sounds dangerous. If the police won't help you need to take matters into your own hands leave and go far away.
I'm so sorry!!! I hope things get better for you. (((HUGS)))
2007-01-07 17:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by luv3dbb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time and keep up NO CONTACT with him. Don't speak to him, don't reply to his questions, his emails, his phone calls, his letters, tell your family and friends to not speak to him or to discuss your lives AT ALL.
If you keep this up, he should go away. If he doesn't, contact the police again. Keep a log of every time he comes to your house. Take a picture or video if you can.
If he still doesn't give up, you may have to move. Good luck and I hope things go better for you soon.
2007-01-07 17:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep going forward with your life. Getting back with your x means going backwards with your life. Sounds like you are on the right track. Don't let Mr. Spanish Dr. tell you that your x love you because if your x loved you he would let you go. Get a restraining order if you have to. Your x has the right to do whatever he wants with his life, even if it means to end it. You have nothing to do with that anymore. Keep going forward with your life.
2007-01-07 17:04:11 · answer #7 · answered by maestra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lucky to get out. Don't listen to anybody but yourself. Advice is cheap. Pity is no reason to take him back. You will be the one to suffer as a consequence, not me nor any of your advisers. Your Spanish doctor sounds shallow and mediocre and very wrong.
If you want a life...you have to be strong. Sorry if I sound callous, but I think there's less problem in this world if we face them head on instead of wallowing in pity.
2007-01-07 17:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by McDreamy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him any way. If it is possible move out of the state without leaving your address with anybody - not even your near and dear ones. You can not live with such a person. He will come to his senses after some time.
2007-01-07 17:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by rams 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order. The police need to be aware of this so they can help you. The guy sounds crazy and he might end up hurting you. Good luck! ;-)
2007-01-07 17:02:39 · answer #10 · answered by . 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋