how do I tell my daughter and her boyfriend who have my brand-new granddaughtear to move out and stay on good?

Question

I am a single mom with 4 kids my oldest is 20 and just had a baby I was exstatic at first gave her and her boyfriend their own room gave up another room to make a nurcery thaught it would be nice to watch my grandaughter grow and be a close part of her life to make a long story short they refuse to contribute anything from housework to 20 dollars for soap and water so for they are taking care of baby needs not only is this a hardship finacially it is emotially on me and the kids plz sombody outthere give me some good advice my best scenioro would be get rid of the bad bo but that is not going to happen

Answer 1

Hi grandma2ho!!

Listen you have to be in control of what happens in YOUR place!!! Just tell them straight out. They are going to play the victims anyway.

I strongly advised you tell them as soon as possible, an d don't be sorry about it. It is very clear that they are taking advantage of you!!! And disrespecting.

A couple with a baby, and NOT helping??? NO!!! Let them know how you feel if you don't, you will be feeling like an outsider in your own home!!!

You have to act quick, also YOU ARE NOT DOING THEM ANY FAVORS, by taking care of them!!! And worst scenario, would be.... they are going to have another baby!!!

Make it clear, and don not fall in the trap of, "WE ARE GOING TO FIND A JOB< AND WOULD LIKE TO PAY FOR THE ROOMS". Is going to be difficult, but you most do it.

The best way is just saying it!!! And give them all the reasons why, they already know!!! The are living from you and taking you for a fool!!!

Answer 2

I agree with the first two answers. HOWEVER, because this is your daughter and your grandbaby, I would do some homework for them.

They are going to need assistance, WIC, etc. Do you know anyone that can help you with that? A social worker or anything like that.

Anyway, line up all that information, present it to them and give them a date to shape up or ship out.

It's terrible that you have to kick out your granddaughter in the process but your daughter and her boyfriend are old enough to start taking responsibility.

Who knows? You put it to them this way and things may change quite drastically.

Best of luck and congratulations!

Answer 3

sit down and talk to them. and tell them that now that they are parents they should be more grown up tell them that they need to get there own place and you will be there on the other line of the phone of they need help with the baby. but its time for them to live like a family because that what the 3 of them are now a family that deserves to live on there own.

Answer 4

This is a hard one!!

I would tell them just like you told us here. I would let them know that you love them but that it is time they set up their own place. It is time they create their own home for them and their child. Let them know that you would love if they came to dinner once a week and if they need help with the baby that you are there. Tell them you just can not afford to support them and your minor children.