2007-01-07 16:49:30 · 30 answers · asked by wjk31092 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You told me on my question that you were a believer in Christ.
I think the main theme of his message is forgiveness. The question should be, Can a husband forgive his wife AND friend for betraying him?
People are resilient. We can snap back very quickly from a tragedy. So, the issue is not the recovery, but rather the trust.
First, the wife has to ask her husband to forgive her and WANT to be with the husband. Then he can move on to the next step, forgive her.
It would be a difficult thing for a husband to do, to forgive his wife and friend. But, he can... and if he truly forgives them both, then trust will not be an issue. In that case, and ONLY that case will the marriage work.
If he can not forgive her they will both be plagued with distrust and the marriage will be contaminated with bitterness, and this will cause too much stress on both parties. This is why the Bible says it is ok to divorce in the event of infidelity. Because too few people are strong enough to overcome these emotional issues.
If the husband can not forgive or trust again, he needs to end the relationship. It will be the only fair and right thing for him to do. No one needs to live a life having to walk on eggshells. It would not be fair of him to expect his wife to have to do that.
So, IF there is total forgiveness...the marriage will work. If there is not TOTAL forgiveness, the relationship will be rocky and uncomfortable for everyone involved (including children).
What the husband decides is up to him, but prayer can help him make his decision. No one knows him better than himself and God.
2007-01-07 21:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he most common answer to why spouses cheat is that something is wrong in the marriage and the affair is a bi-product of those problems, even when most other aspects of the relationship are working well. “The problem” is often one that the faithful spouse who would never think of cheating does not see or has elected to ignore for one reason or another. Other times, the marriage has changed and evolved in a way that leaves the cheating husband or cheating wife feeling left out or somehow empty. Those changes may include a shift in attitudes toward one another and the problems ensue. When a spouse feels that his or her needs are not being met, some turn to their work, others to drugs or alcohol and many to the arms of another man or woman.
2016-05-23 07:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not matter who the wife cheats with.
It may work if both of you really want it to work, you have to really believe that she regrets it deeply and she is sorry for what she did and willing to make it up for you.
And you should ask yourself if you still love her and you are willing to take the chance again and let the ship keep sailing.
It takes a lot of time to heal, but it does heal if there is a real will to go on, I've seen cases of that.
2007-01-07 16:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Once a cheater always a cheater. If your wife cheats on you with your friend; he wasn't your friend to begin with! It's hard for couples who's spouse cheated on them to stay together. They can always say they won't do it again, but end up doing it more than once.
Maybe your friends or if this is yourself, go and get counseling! If you known her for over 6-10yrs. and she never cheated on you before, get help. But, if this person has a history of cheating it's time to call it quits.
2007-01-07 16:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by ms.hunnipot32 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes
but that is only if SHE is really sorry, not just sorry she got caught.
It would also mean that you BOTH have to stop seeing the friend.
I personally would not TRY to make it work as that seems like treason to get it from the two people that you were supposed to be able to trust the most.
If this is your wife and your friend, you ememies must be mobsters.
2007-01-07 16:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by lisa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It happened to me . I wasn't married to her yet but we were together for 4yrs. So I left and lost the girl that I loved and my best friend at the same time. I moved on but it still bothers me as she still calls and texts me all the time. She hasn't quite let go either but the damage is done.
2007-01-07 16:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by justshowupandplay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how sorry she is acting and how willing she is to gain your trust back by doing whatever you say will make you feel secure. Also you have to be able to forgive and not ever bring it up again and not throw it back at her every time you get mad or suspicious.
2007-01-07 17:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mustang Sally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's rough. It's hard to trust someone again after they cheated. Maybe they regret it & it won't happen again & maybe you'd be a fool to try again. I don't know your situation. Were you going through a difficult time before this happened?
2007-01-07 16:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO absolutely not A famous quote "once a cheat always a cheat"
2007-01-07 16:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by ompie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course. If both of you are willing to get counseling and the wife is willing to work on her issues.
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2007-01-08 15:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by tink3610 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋