Is this proof positive that divorcees are terminal f*ckups?! I think so, but maybe I'm missing something about these wonderful examples of how NOT to do relationships?!
2007-01-07 16:22:15 · 24 answers · asked by hughgrection4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think that 98% is any kind of an accurate figure. I've known several divorced moms who have re-married and they didn't make the same mistake they made the first time and the second marriage worked out just fiine............
2007-01-07 16:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I don't think that you are citing accurate statistics here. But it may be that you have met a lot of women in that situation.
No, not every single mom gets divorced twice. I know several women in their second marriage who had kids from the first marriage.
But I heard someplace that the biggest source of a second marriage failure are issues concerning the kids. Either the kids from both families cannot get along, there new couple has different ideas on parenting, the kids don't like the new step dad, or the problems with the ex will compound the effet.
So, while there are some women who probably don't have the ability to stay committed in a difficult situation, a lot of times the other issues are the real reason for the marriage to fail.
2007-01-08 00:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by Searcher 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship doesn't work after children are involved and the couple ends in divorce, If she remarry there is alot more at steak the can and can't of a stepfather. Boundrys can be crossed and as a mother she has to stand up for her children. Men are not so accepting of the guidlines that single mothers have set. This can ruin the relatioship. Also being a stepfather certainly couldn't be a easy thing anyhow. I just think there is alot more stress when their are children that doesn't belong to both partners are involved..
2007-01-08 00:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by Sherman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do you get your statistics. You have to back it up or else everyone will think you a foolish person who just talks out his @ss.
First of all what I have seen of divorcees is that they don't remarry and maybe that's just in my area of the country but there is a fear of being left again or being cheated on. Trust is broken and therefore harder to earn. I will tell you that there is no way that I will get married right away again. BTW your statement of single moms being eff ups is so false. My ex cheated on me with a 14 year old how did I eff up you ask well maybe it was marrying him in the first place I will give you that but generally speaking. Single moms work a hell of a lot harder than you prolly ever will, and It isn't always thier fault. I don't have children to have an income in fact I don't count on getting child support because so many mom's don't get it at all. So next time you think you want to spout out gas and crap from the oraface called your face. think about it...
2007-01-08 00:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by WINGS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm just guessing here, but i would say that there are a whole whole lot of single moms that are just looking for a daddy for there kid(s), and so they have a tendency to just go with any guy that seems nice at the time. my cousin is a good example. she had been divorced before and already had two kids when she met her second husband. she didn't know him for any more than three or four months before she married him. all she knew was that he had a good job and would be a good provider, so they did things backwards... they got married and THEN they got to know each other. then they got divorced. go figure.
2007-01-08 00:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by That Guy Drew 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt has had 8 husbands... All her kids have different dads. She seems to just get bored... And my friends mom has married 3 times. She has been with her current one for 3 years now, but you never know when it might change. But she marries those player jerks, and the first two cheated on her. My mom got divorced onces, and she has been with my step dad for 17 years, and i think they will be together forever. SO i think it all depends on the two people getting married. And maybe people who get a divorce once think it is not big deal to get married again. Cause they can just get divorced...
I don't really know, just what i think.
2007-01-08 00:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by Stark 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Multiple divorce isn't related to gender or to parenthood. It happens all the time these days, everywhere we look. The answer to why people get divorced over and over again is that so many people don't look before they leap. They rush into it much too soon only to find that they can't (or don't want to) work through the issues that naturally come up.
2007-01-08 00:27:18 · answer #7 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For every single mom there is a single dad who isn't just single but often times gone entirely. Don't blame the women exclusively! That is chauvinistic, sexist and a mistaken view of the truth. The trouble is people..men and women don't deal with their baggage before they take it to the next relationship. And as hateful as you sound toward women, I would say you probably haven't dealt with yours. My advice, get some counseling. If you don't like women you can't have a good relationship with one.
2007-01-08 00:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It often happens because they keep picking the wrong men for the same reasons. And what makes you think it's only women that do this? For every divorced woman, there is a divorced man... and they have the same problems.
2007-01-08 00:27:09 · answer #9 · answered by Debbie B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've learned that it takes a LONG LONG time to really get to know a person and you have to be in the right frame of mind at the time. I will not get married again (thats if I do) until i get to know them for at least a couple of years.
2007-01-08 00:25:00 · answer #10 · answered by laura k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋