I never used to be shy, but I have been getting more and more shy since I am sometimes around people that make me feel self-concious. I am a naturally quiet person and people have laughed at me for not talking which makes me really self-concious and even more shy. What do I do to get over this? It's not a huge problem but it is to me and I need help.
2007-01-07 16:15:37 · 6 answers · asked by GeekGirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi Blue Jeans!!!
It is all about self esteem!!! You need to build up on your self esteem, big time !!! A good way to atart is thinking on the fact that "NO ONE IS PERFECT"!!! Once you understand that principal, most of your shyness will disappear, after working hard at it !!!
Another thing is DO NOT CONCENTRATE ON OTHERS!!!!
Rather concentate on what you need to do at work or anything that you are involve. Stop looking at others, and try to do and be the best than you can!!!
About people laughing, honey, who cares???? Really???
Let them laugh Is the want to??? I'm sorry about what I'm about to tell you but, You are giving much attention to people and you or anyone of us can't please everybody!!!,
That's why..... Who gives a HOOT??? Be yourself, try to be the best, walk with confidence; and DO NOT LET PEOPLE KNOW HOW YOU FELL !!!
As soon as people notice some one is WEAK, the prey on them,be smart!!! Take a test yourself, get ready with positive thinking about youself, dress up as comfortable as you can and go out. Pretend you are some one else, that person you would like to be, AND BECOME HER!!!!
Walk traight and tall, look at people straight in the eyes, smile.
When you look around you, DO NOT LOOK OR THINK about other people. Enjoy yourself, pay attention to YOU, play the roll like you would be in some movie.
When you come home you'll notice, feeling liberated, happier, and most of all proud!!! With this experiment I bet you will know yourself better and all the things you are able to acompplish.
Change your attitude, and DON'T EXPECT PEOPLE TO APPROVE!!! DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO, say what you have to say, go where you need to go, be whit who you want to be with!!!
PEOPLE ALLWAYS CRITISIZED ANYWAY!!!!
GOOD LUCK, GOD BLESS YOU & HAPPY LIFE
ALLIV Z
2007-01-07 16:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really understnand how you feel! The best is not to take notice of these people. Its hard but these people that are loud are usually very shallow.
Im sure your a nice girl and i have always liked people that are a bit quiet becuase its like opening a treasure once you really find out who they are its like finding gold.
2007-01-08 00:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
know that, the worst things you're picturing in your mind, are next to impossible on happening. Most of the time, the reaction someone has is neutral or good. You can always spot someone in a foul mood, or hear them 20 feet away. So be confident, and know, you'll do good and have nothign to fear.
2007-01-08 00:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by Cory W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULDN'T LET OTHERS MAKE YOU FEEL THAT WAY. JUST BECAUSE SOME OF THEM ARE LOUD AND TALK ALOT. DOES NOT MEAN YOU HAVE TO. THERE ARE OTHERS JUST LIKE YOU OUT THERE. JUST REMEMBER THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. YOU ARE NORMAL JUST LIKE THE REST OF US. AND FOR THOSE WHO LAUGH IGNORE THEM, THEY ARE NOT WORTH GETTING UPSET OVER. LAUGH WITH THEM.
2007-01-08 00:20:00 · answer #4 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your around people you know, just join in the conversation. its actually easier than just standing there doing nothing. They may even react and say: "She speaks"! You just have to join in!
2007-01-08 00:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by laddrjok 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and me both. I've been shy, self-conscious, and insecure for most of my life and it sucks.
2007-01-08 00:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋