I've been insecure for as long as I can remember. I've tried many times to overcome it, but it seems like the more I try, the worse it gets.
I feel like I'm more self aware than ever, but I can't tell if I should accept my personality flaws as a part of who I am, or if I should do something to improve them. And that confusion causes more insecurity.
I feel like I'm spiraling downward into deeper and deeper self-questioning and doubt. The more I understand about myself, the more confused I am about what I should do with that knowledge.
What do I do? What practical, everyday things can I do to pull myself out of this spiral?
2007-01-07 16:07:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Same problem for 37 years! Went to some counseling and learned alot! First and foremost, what others DO or SAY about me DOES NOT determine my worth or who I am. I decided then if it took me another 37 years to "practice" saying that mantra in my head over & over until I realized it was true, it would be worth it. But it DIDN'T take that long, a couple years maybe, but my life is sooo much better now that I've come to know this. Just be who you are. If you know in your heart you try and be honest, compassionate, and kind to others, then you ARE going to become secure with yourself! Good luck, you can do it!
2007-01-07 16:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by Tweet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what do you think you could do to yourself to make you a better person? if it's a physical characteristic you'll probably never be satisfied with yourself. that's why you need to let the little meaningless things go and just forget what other people think and just enjoy your own life. why do you seek other peoples approval? what can they give you? if you say confidence and acceptance... realise you ultimately need your own acceptance, which should not be validated by anyone else.
imagine if you spent your whole life being insecure, it's not much of a life is it? don't waste time, because in 20 years you'll look back at who you are today and realise you've wasted so many opportunities for absolutely no reason. enjoy yourself, and don't live to please anybody else. when you're happy with yourself, it will shine through and you'll feed off your new confidence which will grow everyday.
don't change to please anyone else
p.s. i hope you realise no one is perfect. everybody has little flaws that bother them. it's how much they let the little things effect their lives which determines how confident they are. don't strive for perfection because you're setting yourself up for failure and you'll never feel satisfied with yourself.
2007-01-07 16:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by natalia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well everyone has personality flaws but you seem like you have a problem with yours so you should try and overcome it. I don't know what everyday things you can do to help yourself but I suggest you find a new challenge for yourself. Something you have always wanted to try. Make sure its something that you can measure your progress with and you can accomplish on your own.
2007-01-07 16:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by BluLizard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity is part of balance. With out having a sense of cation would be a very bad thing. It brings a sense of safety in time where things might be out of control. Have no worries, it's a normal thing and is part the overall nature of things.
2007-01-07 16:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by Stony 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
where on same grounds, I have the same problem, so try to not think about it, just say to yourself (in your head), that you have confidence etc., like a mantra, always be positive inside, if you think of doubt, doubt will follow, if you think about confusion, confusion will follow etc, so do the reverse thought and think positive, positive things will follow...............easy, life is easy, just try to think that way.
2007-01-07 17:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by erik m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe in Yourself for at least ten minutes each day. You pick the first ten minutes and see what happens from there!
2007-01-07 16:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No PLEASE don't accept your personality flaws ! You definetly need to do something to improve them.........................
2007-01-07 16:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by gerbare 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋